lostandbroke Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Here is my situation. I have been with her for 4 years. It has been up and down but we always patch things up. She has some mental issues that have been some of the past problems. We have a baby together and I have been trying to make everything work for the sake of the baby. I have been doing everything I can and even working on self improvment. She told me a couple of months ago she feels like she loves me but not sure if she is "in love" with me anymore. I remained calm and said we can work on it. We did. I felt that things were going better. One day, I really felt everything was better... We were in a store and a song came on the radio. I said that I loved that song, she said you should listen to the words. She started singing the line... saying she loves me and only me. (meaning me). I felt she was back. The next week, she said she didnt love me anymore and for me to not talk to her anymore. Only discuss our daughter. thats it. About three weeks later, I heard she was dating someone. When I asked her she said yes. She claims she was not seeing him wile I was in the picture. She said she just started. I dont know if its true or not. It kills me to think of her being with another man sexually. I know the advice I will hear on here will be to move on. I cant. I feel like even if I talk to someone, she is still in my heart. I feel like I am cheating and its not fair to whomever I talk to. I just dont know what to do. I really want her back. We was going to get married. After a couple of issues, I wanted to give it some time to settle before we got married but I guess it was too late. This hurts more than anything that has ever happened to me. When I talk to her about this, she just says, why do you want to be with someone that doesnt love you? That hurt more than anything. Depression has kicked in, my work has suffered. Ive gone to the doctor and got medication but it just doesnt take all the hurt away. I tried to take my mind off of everything and join dating sites but Those dont work at all.
NopeNah Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Good thing those dating sites don't work, because that's probaly the last thing you need to be doing right now is dating. Take some time for yourself to heal, man. No need to jump right into dating after a breakup. It's been 3+mo for me and I'm just going on my first "real date" tonight. Don't get me wrong i've done the one nighters and such but, they mean nothing! I'd also suggest cutting ALL contact with her unless it's about your child. You're in no mindset rght now to be disussing anything else with her.
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