paddington bear Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I'm a woman and I think it's BS. When you're least expecting it...I've pretended to not expect it, while really keeping an eye out for someone. I've genuinely been up to my neck, busy, happy and so on, and not met someone. I've flirted and looked stunning and danced and just been myself and not met anyone. It is, in my opinion a line that happily coupled-up people tell their single friends. And if one more person says it to me I will thump them. I've heard this crap too many times. They can swap lives with me and wait for years and years 'not expecting' and see that their theory is flawed and a platitude which really means 'shut up moaning about being single and get on with your life and be happy that you've no love or sex or companionship, because it might just turn up one day, but in the meantime don't bring me down with your lack of love life, I want to stay happy and content with my wonderful partner'. I now am not expecting anything ever because I've become somewhat bitter and you learn that whether you expect or not, it changes nothing, not a damn thing. Most people meet people when they are actively looking, keeping their eyes out for available people that they might have a connection with, so long as that 'keeping your eyes open' doesn't turn into desperation, then I think that's better than trying to forget all about it. It's a basic human need to want love and sex, to pretend that it doesn't matter and that you can forget about that is B.S.
kizik Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 It is, in my opinion a line that happily coupled-up people tell their single friends. And if one more person says it to me I will thump them. I've heard this crap too many times. They can swap lives with me and wait for years and years 'not expecting' and see that their theory is flawed and a platitude which really means 'shut up moaning about being single and get on with your life and be happy that you've no love or sex or companionship, because it might just turn up one day, but in the meantime don't bring me down with your lack of love life, I want to stay happy and content with my wonderful partner'. I agree to a point; I think this line is total BS, but I don't think the people saying it to you are necessarily saying it out of fear of having their happy little bubble burst. I think they honestly believe it, and meeting people sometimes does happen for people when they don't expect it. Those people are called women and it usually happens when they're fresh out of a relationship, down in the dumps, not wanting a BF ever again... except hey, that cute guy just asked me out. Didn't expect that! Most people meet people when they are actively looking, keeping their eyes out for available people that they might have a connection with, so long as that 'keeping your eyes open' doesn't turn into desperation, then I think that's better than trying to forget all about it. Nodding my head in agreement. I'm a musician. Do I get gigs when I least expect them? Ha! I gotta send out a ton of emails with links to my MySpace page, and I'm lucky if a single bar emails me back. But apparently, if I simply stopped emailing the bars, they'd magically find me? It's a basic human need to want love and sex, to pretend that it doesn't matter and that you can forget about that is B.S. Exactly. I'm never going to be able to stop looking, even if I tried. Now, I can focus as much energy into music, exercise, friendship, and intellectual fulfillment... but none of those things are the comfort of a woman's body next to mine, and none of them will be. You do your best with what you have, keep your eyes open, and maybe you meet someone. That's the best we can do.
Recommended Posts