kizik Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I'm gonna have to place the blame on guys for that, for the most part. If they didn't enable such behaviour by treating such girls like goddesses whose favour they must strive to attain, while evidently disdaining and ignoring girls whose strong point isn't exactly physical attractiveness, I don't think this behaviour would be so rampant. I actually agree. But it is a chicken-egg scenario. Don't you hot girls ever feel soul-less? You know, like the ONLY reason that dude hangs around is for your rack? Don't hot girls understand how superficial their existence really is? Or is attention really that addictive?
Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I'm trying to figure out why it's annoying to anyone, if people are aware they're attractive, intelligent, funny or any other positive trait(s). For that matter, if it annoys you, don't date them. There's no need for the blame game or to take anyone down a peg. Move on.
Stockalone Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Ahh, a little "negging"? You did not just say Jehova , "negging" . You better hope the women don't have their virtual stones ready.
espec10001 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I actually agree. But it is a chicken-egg scenario. Don't you hot girls ever feel soul-less? You know, like the ONLY reason that dude hangs around is for your rack? Don't hot girls understand how superficial their existence really is? Or is attention really that addictive? I learned this lesson the hard way. You shouldn't date a girl just because she has big boobs. But god-damnit when they are popping out they are soooooo hard to resist and they know this! If they catch you looking at their boobs they say stop looking at my boobs! Then why do you have them hanging out like that?!!?! They are just playing with you haha
Ross PK Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Just a question, does anybody here actually believe those old sayings such as "you'll meet someone when you least expect it" or "you'll meet someone when you're not looking" and other sayings along those lines? For some people it's true and for others it isn't.
kizik Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 For some people it's true and for others it isn't. No offense, but this one response could go in any thread on this site.
Thornton Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I usually meet someone unexpectedly when I'm not really looking. Someone just turns up in my life and we hit it off. I think other people can smell desperation a mile off, and that's why it's difficult to find someone when you want them, but when you're not looking you just happen to meet someone.
Els Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I actually agree. But it is a chicken-egg scenario. Don't you hot girls ever feel soul-less? You know, like the ONLY reason that dude hangs around is for your rack? Don't hot girls understand how superficial their existence really is? Or is attention really that addictive? So if you agree that looks are superficial, why do you participate in the superficial behaviour of rating such girls above others, PURELY because of their looks? If it were not for that, they would have no superficial means of getting attention, so there wouldn't be this problem in the first place.
kizik Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 So if you agree that looks are superficial, why do you participate in the superficial behaviour of rating such girls above others, PURELY because of their looks? If it were not for that, they would have no superficial means of getting attention, so there wouldn't be this problem in the first place. While I will always approach attractive girls instead of not-hot ones (because that's what I want - a cutie), I discover within the first ten seconds of talking to them if they're vapid. Most usually are. I'm biologically ingrained to get turned on by hot chicks. THAT's not superficial. The superficial part occurs when intelligent guys STAY with these idiot women simply BECAUSE of their looks. A real man won't waste his time on a pretty face that has nothing to say.
Ariadne Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 "you'll meet someone when you least expect it" Actually, The only truth to that, was that I did meet the guys that I liked and thought were compatible when I least expected it. They didn't want me or were not available for other reasons... but those came out of the blue. The ones I met when I was looking didn't work either, because they were not compatible.
Isolde Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 But you're in a graduate program now. All you need to do is to look up the new disgruntled assistant professor that's way too smart for their respective department. (Only tenure track though, no adjuncts!) Then, he can fall in love with you, get fired, and the two of you will move to Mexico, where he'll find a much better job as a consiglieri to the local narco baron, and you'll walk around in a huge hat while supporting the local arts foundations or something . Haha, all the professors I've ever met were married, ironically. The image of me in a big hat being a society lady was a riot, though.
FleshNBones Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Just a question, does anybody here actually believe those old sayings such as "you'll meet someone when you least expect it" or "you'll meet someone when you're not looking" and other sayings along those lines? Just asking because it seems a lot of people already in relationships say things like that, and tell you to don't worry and to just pursue your own interests and you'll eventually meet someone. Anybody actually buy this? I've been pursuing my own interests and doing my own thing for a long time now and I don't get women popping into my life. The only time I have ever had relationships (very few) is when I have been very actively pursing women.I think I've heard the phrase "you'll find someone sooner or later" for about 10 years. There were no dates, and there was no interest at least not from younger intelligent women with a healthy weight. This is 10 years of absolutely nothing. I have been pursuing interests of my own. It seems like few, if any, women have interests outside of drama. I am getting old, and the chances of pairing up with a worthwhile woman are fading fast.
FleshNBones Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I actually agree. But it is a chicken-egg scenario. Don't you hot girls ever feel soul-less? You know, like the ONLY reason that dude hangs around is for your rack? Don't hot girls understand how superficial their existence really is? Or is attention really that addictive?How can they understand when they don't have an identity of their own?
Isolde Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I have to say that attractive women are stereotyped more than attractive men on this board. Maybe I'm just lucky, but after high school, I haven't really come across many of these brainless ditzes you men speak of. Maybe it's just my particular areas of school and work, I don't know. I'm not an LS feminist, but I am beginning to tire of this "being hit on by fat women is gross. but pretty women are brainless", black and white, kind of thinking. I'll grant you, LS ladies sometimes say similar things about men ("i'm not approached by attractive men, but attractive men are scoundrels!"), but not nearly as often.
kizik Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I'm not an LS feminist, but I am beginning to tire of this "being hit on by fat women is gross. but pretty women are brainless", black and white, kind of thinking. I feel like you're referring to my comments, and I'm not generalizing. I'm expressing personal preference. I don't like big girls, and I don't like aggressive women. End of my story. Oh, and dumb chicks get far too much attention from stupid guys.
Isolde Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I feel like you're referring to my comments, and I'm not generalizing. I'm expressing personal preference. I don't like big girls, and I don't like aggressive women. End of my story. Oh, and dumb chicks get far too much attention from stupid guys. I didn't say that your preferences were wrong. I said that you, and many other guys on this forum, express a dislike of overweight or unattractive women but also generalize about pretty women, demonstrating an overall negative attitude. Women do it too, of course, but they generally don't word things as harshly. We tend to at least try to be flattered when approached... maybe that is just a girl thing. I don't know. I like to look at things positively if I can. I guess all that I am trying to say is there are lots of attractive single women around, that are educated and well-spoken. If I reverse this argument to be true for men, I also begin to see a lot of my generalizations about guys must have exceptions too!
Trialbyfire Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I have to say that attractive women are stereotyped more than attractive men on this board. Maybe I'm just lucky, but after high school, I haven't really come across many of these brainless ditzes you men speak of. Maybe it's just my particular areas of school and work, I don't know. I'm not an LS feminist, but I am beginning to tire of this "being hit on by fat women is gross. but pretty women are brainless", black and white, kind of thinking. I'll grant you, LS ladies sometimes say similar things about men ("i'm not approached by attractive men, but attractive men are scoundrels!"), but not nearly as often.I never used to be a feminist until I joined LS. I'm now happily embracing feminism, due to all the negativity. No wonder women feel this way, if these are the attitudes they're exposed to, day in and day out.
39388 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I think I've heard the phrase "you'll find someone sooner or later" for about 10 years. There were no dates, and there was no interest at least not from younger intelligent women with a healthy weight. This is 10 years of absolutely nothing. I have been pursuing interests of my own. It seems like few, if any, women have interests outside of drama. I am getting old, and the chances of pairing up with a worthwhile woman are fading fast. I feel like you're referring to my comments, and I'm not generalizing. I'm expressing personal preference. I don't like big girls, and I don't like aggressive women. End of my story. Oh, and dumb chicks get far too much attention from stupid guys. I'm so disgusted reading this crap, but I may indirectly benefit from those who think like this. There are so many women I find attaractive who happen to be above average in weight out there who are completely rejected by most men. I guess it will increase the chances of finding love for me. Let me add that just because I found some above average weight women attractive, does NOT mean I find all women attractive. Some features attract me more than others.
kizik Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Ha. Go ahead and be disgusted. Should I take offense if you say, "I'm not turned on by midgets"? It's personal. Freaking. Preference. All you hair-trigger PC-ers need to relax a bit and stop looking for causes to champion.
39388 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Ha. Go ahead and be disgusted. Should I take offense if you say, "I'm not turned on by midgets"? It's personal. Freaking. Preference. All you hair-trigger PC-ers need to relax a bit and stop looking for causes to champion. :rolleyes::rolleyes:
Nemoralis Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I agree to the OP to some degree. I met my SO after I'd been nearly killed in a motorcycle accident. While in the hospital, I was bored and my dad convinced me to create a profile on some obscure networking site that he's on. I did it just for fun and lo and behold, a wonderful guy messaged me and we began talking. At the time I was in casts up to my wrists, couldn't walk, and my left leg appeared to be permanently disabled. Not exactly in a position to start dating!!! But here we are months later, together and happy. Oh, and I can walk just fine. Go figure.
saira Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 OMG u guys may as well be talking about me 'I AM INDEED IN THIS BUBBLE' career, independent, financially secure doing my own thing but wham bam!!!!! u r all talking about me.. i have had the mentality that i will met him when i list expect it... boooo hooooo.. confused & yet to confirm it as BS...
FleshNBones Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I have to say that attractive women are stereotyped more than attractive men on this board. Maybe I'm just lucky, but after high school, I haven't really come across many of these brainless ditzes you men speak of. Maybe it's just my particular areas of school and work, I don't know. I'm not an LS feminist, but I am beginning to tire of this "being hit on by fat women is gross. but pretty women are brainless", black and white, kind of thinking. I'll grant you, LS ladies sometimes say similar things about men ("i'm not approached by attractive men, but attractive men are scoundrels!"), but not nearly as often.The brainless part seems to apply to most of the single women I've come across regardless of weight. I was hit on by women who were old and fat. They want someone to put their kids through college. One ounce of vulnerability on my part, and they are on me like buzzards.
Els Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I'm biologically ingrained to get turned on by hot chicks. THAT's not superficial. The superficial part occurs when intelligent guys STAY with these idiot women simply BECAUSE of their looks. A real man won't waste his time on a pretty face that has nothing to say. Now, these are appalling double standards. If it's not superficial for you to get turned on by hot chicks because it's biologically ingrained in you... How then is it superficial for those chicks to strive to be hot (you DO know that beauty is 10% natural and 90% how much you choose to invest in it, right? that the 'natural' beauty that you see is more often than not the result of countless pricey skin products, hairstyling, manicures/pedicures, good clothes, well-done makeup, etc), and to enjoy the attention that they procure from people like YOU for being hot? See, she has to be intelligent AND hot, but the hot part has to come before you even pay attention to her. How can a girl observe such things all her life and not be affected by it? Some girls with a good head on their shoulders manage to remain sensible through it, and some fail to. The latter, which are the girls who so annoy you, became so because of people like YOU.
tkgirl Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Just a question, does anybody here actually believe those old sayings such as "you'll meet someone when you least expect it" or "you'll meet someone when you're not looking" and other sayings along those lines? Just asking because it seems a lot of people already in relationships say things like that, and tell you to don't worry and to just pursue your own interests and you'll eventually meet someone. Anybody actually buy this? I've been pursuing my own interests and doing my own thing for a long time now and I don't get women popping into my life. The only time I have ever had relationships (very few) is when I have been very actively pursing women. The way I've always understood that is that you'll meet the right one when you least expect it... meaning, if you are out there looking for a certain type or what you think is the right one for you, you will not find it. But when you are open to meeting whoever and are just out living your life and having fun, that's when you'll meet someone good for you. That's how it's always happened with me... I wouldn't really be looking, then BAM I'll meet someone and have actually fallen hard that way a couple times too. But yeah, you do have to put yourself out there a bit too...
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