ShannonTurner Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I dated my ex for about 2 months, 3 years ago. Our relationship became long distance after I moved away, and we kept in touch for a few months, when I started to notice he was disappearing on me, by not responding to e-mails. I've read "He's just no that into you" so I know what it means when he disappears on you. Anyway, after a few months of him being gone, he wrote me an e-mail, desperately wanting to hear from me. I knew it was a sham, so I called him on it, and he said he would find a way to talk to me; to make things right. He never did. He disappeared again. We have never spoken since (this was 2.5 years ago). About a year ago he tried to add me Facebook. I ignored it. Then he tried to add me two more times, and I ignored those as well. I should mention that he never actually tried to message me while adding me. So now one year later he is adding me again (4th time), but still has not messaged me. I would really love to know what his motive is? Why does he keep adding me if he so clearly did not want to fix our relationship in the first place? And why is he trying to add me again after a year? Is it possible that he didn't know I rejected his previous 3 friend requests? Any opinions would be greatly appreciated! Thank you for taking the time to respond!
Thornton Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 My ex added me to Facebook. He was simply nosy, wanting to know what I was up to, because my privacy settings don't allow him to see my page unless he's my friend. I wouldn't read too much into this tbh.
evaG Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 It's so annoying. My exes do the same thing to me. One I didn't care enough to keep on rejecting. The other would always message me once a month without fail, and it pisses me off that he can't leave me alone after he's the one who broke my heart.
BCCA Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Well, he obviously wasnt serious about finding a way to talk to you and making things right. In the alternative, though, he's hoping that if enough time goes by, youll forget about it and be his friend. I know, it sounds dumb, but I honestly just think hes feeling out upset you are. If/when you accept his friend request, he'll know you arent super pissed any longer, and he might message you. He knows full well you ignored his other requests, otherwise, it wouldnt let him try again. Like I said though, I think he's just using it to see if youre still upset. I wouldnt read too much into it, a lot of ex's of mind have tried to add me on FB and pretend we're still friends or something. Some people just add anyone and everyone, too. Just ignore it, and eventually, he'll give up.
Girlygirl1977 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I agree with what everyone else said. Your time together was very brief - 2 months. Are you still unresolved about it though? If not, then just accept his request. Otherwise, you may want to think about it more as he probably doesn't want more than a friendship.
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