SW83 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Hello Guys, I am currently having a very hard decision to make about my ex-girlfriend. We had been dating for almost three years, just like any other relationship we had our ups and downs, but I love her so much and I was pretty sure she loves me just as much as I love her if not more. Anyways, we broke up about 5 months ago, it was my decision due to varies issues of our relationship, my original purpose was to take some time off and we can both try to come up with a good solution so we can try to make it work again, I didn’t tell her that though which was pretty stupid. I was very hurt and I am sure she was too; her friend helped her signed up at this site called “plenty fish dot com”, soon after that she met another guy online who actually lived in another city which is about 4 hours drive. The guy just keep calling her and messaging her, and visiting her. I knew this back then, and I was thinking that she will never hook up with him (he wasn’t the type she likes) and also when we first break up she told me that she will not date for a while, I believed her. But soon after that they listed in a relationship on facebook. I was very hurt and tried to call her, she never answered the phone. I went through a very hard time was almost got over it. Recently she called me and we started to talk again, she said she still has feeling for me and wants to get back together, even though I was almost over it but I still love her. I just don’t understand why three years of relationship doesn’t even worth her to tell me the truth. And I just found out that they had sex on his third visit. Now everytime I am with her, I just can’t stop thinking. She told me that she just felt that he understands her and always support her, she said she knew that they weren’t going anywhere and when they first had sex, she doesn’t even wants to date him. She recently dumped him because she doesn’t like him and they were still having sex after broke up until she came to me. Guys what should I do? Please please help. Should I give it another try? She told me that she wants to marry me, she doesn’t want her number to go up when we first broke up, then she turned around did this. I am very hurt now. Please please help.[/sIZE][/FONT]
SRTtoZ Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Its really not her fault that you broke up with her and she went and dated other guys...Thats what happens. Thats the only way to really move on...meeting new people and TIME. You gotta get over the jealousy thing and if you really love/care about this girl you'll get back with her and make it work. This is exactly why No contact works...because she stopped contacting you, met new people and then you wanted her back If you really want her back take her back...But there's no changing the past. Your guys best bet is to not continue your relationship but start it over...and realize that **** happens.
joejohnson Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 I agree with SRTtoZ. I it sounds like you goys bolth made some mistakes, but its what makes us human. The fact that she got in touch with you very well could mean that she wants to get back togeather. If you really love her then try to forget about the past and move forward with your relationship. If it was me I would give things a chance. Good luck Joe
gantler2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 she was within hre rights to do what she did, but you two obviously have feelings for each other. Take it slow. Don't let her rush you with the marriage idea if she can so quickly find another lover, I have a hard time with the idea she can just have sex with some dude and not think about you. If it were me I would have some reservations in sleeping with another girl even if I did attempt to. i would give it a chance though. Good luck.
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