dudemag Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 long story short. i moved to a new city to go to school, my ex dumped me after 2 years and left me alone up here with no one. ever since then ive lost all my self esteem and ive grown to be really depressed. all my friends are 3-6 hours away and i currently am unemployed. i can't seem to find the motivation to do anything except play video games. although, ive been running A LOT and i love it and started light weight lifting (dont want to look like a meat head!) how do i find the balls to get out of this ruckus? i mean 7 months no job (ive applied EVERYWHERE!), no new friends ive just been a zombie. i go to school and come home and do nothing between that... anyone ever been in a similar situation? btw im 24 and i live with my brother. any insight is greatly appreciated
redant Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 At least you have your brother! Keep running etc. Find things you enjoy. Volunteer or get involved in group activities. I think there are alot of people like you who are new to a city so it's normal to be struggling to meet new people.
siriusmatt Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Step one is to get a job. That's why you feel like a zombie. It's man's lot in life to work. Keep applying at places and lower your standards if you have to, even McDonald's is a damn sight better than slowly losing your mind at home. You'll have a reason to get out of bed in the morning at least. You will meet new people at work, and you will like yourself more because you are self-reliant and taking care of yourself. I know it seems like you don't have the energy, but if you force yourself to start doing what you need to do your inertia will start to carry you. Getting started is the hard part. Once you're moving, it becomes a lot easier.
mark982 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 i''ll agree fist thing is to get a job. hell 7/11,micki d's, hell deliver pizzas. just keep plugging something will come up.
shine_like_love Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 I agree about getting a job. I was divorced moved back home, had no friends, no money and no car. It was really tough, I know where you are coming from here. First thing I did was start to make myself happy with myself. I lost a ton of weight by working out and walking. Then got a job with the job came friends. Then I got a car and I feel wonderful. Remember when you go for a job interview, you can be anyone you want to be. I'm not telling you to lie but if you fake confidence they will not know you are faking it. Confidence attracts people to other people. No one wants to hire someone who seems to have a crappy attitude. Also, make sure you dress nice, its very important it shows you care what they think of you and gives the right first impression.
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