aloneanddepressed Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Well I just found out this week its definitely over between my BF and I. We haven't seen each other in over two weeks now. I am now talking to another guy now, and all I can think about is my Ex. How long does it take before the sick feeling in your stomach goes away, and you feel like no one is like them and all that mess!The reason I am talking to this other guy is, he is someone I used to work with. Someone is trying to set us up, and I'm afraid of missing a chance with a nice person. I'm scared to tell them I'm not sure if I'm ready to start dating. After talking on the phone with this new guy tonight for a while, I still got off the phone thinking of my ex bf, and feeling so upset about everything. I feel I can't think about anyone else right now. Also, this guy I'm talking to he wasn't really aware of how serious my relationship was. Should I not be talking to any other guys or is it normal to start dating this soon?
moo Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I think it's way too soon. I've been apart from my ex for over two months. I think about going on dating websites, but I'm still in a great deal of pain. You have to get strong first, because if this doesn't work out, you now have two very painful relationships back to back. Give yourself some time. Just be honest with him and tell him you are in the process of getting over a painful break up. Ask if you can contact him in the future when you are feeling better and stronger.
looking4 green grass Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I know you don't want to miss out on something fabulous, but think about it from the other side. Would you want to start dating a guy who was always thinking about his ex-girlfriend? Probably not. Two weeks isn't a very long time, especially in heart ache. (Also, try reading the It's called a break up b/c it's broken book, it was great.)
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 well actually I'm a little p'sd at a relative. Somehow they ran into a ex coworker of mine, who knows this guy, and they set this up. Well my number was given to this guy without my approval. I never said it was definitely ok. Also, they were not aware of how serious my relationship was at the time. I think my relative said it was an on/off again deal, and wasn't aware of it because our relationship was sort of long distance(we lived an hour away from each other). The number was given to this guy a couple weeks ago, but he is just now calling. I was hoping he wouldn't actually or at least not so soon, but at same time I'm worried about being alone and passing up a chance. He seems like a pretty nice guy for a change. Of course it happens to be right when I'm going through an emotional time. If I tell him this, he will wonder why my number was given to him in first place.
moo Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 just be honest and explain how it was that he got your number. Then give yourself time.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 He is supposedly going to give me a call tomorrow at some point. I guess I will just have to be honest, and tell him more as to what is going on. I'm a little worried he will think I'm just throwing some excuse at him for not wanting to meet and just disappear or lose interest ect. I was a bit surprised that after one call, he was already asking to go out either tomorrow or Tuesday of this week. I didn't really mind talking some to him and getting to know him better, but going out on a date that soon. Um, I seriously don't know.
moo Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Just be gentle and honest and if he doesn't believe you or is mean to you, then you know that he is not good enough for you from the get-go.
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