lucy9216 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 So my ex left me in april, when he left he admitted to talking to another girl that lives in another state, this girl told him that he should leave me if he felt it wasn't right between us. He swore that there were no romantic feelings involved she was just a friend. I knew this was bull crap from the beginning but of course I wanted to beleive it. So tonight when he dropped off our daughter he finally admits that he does have feelings for her. I am over him by now and I am talking to someone else and I like this other person. Thinking of him with someone else when he first left made me feel sick to my stomache, but now after everything that he did to me during our break up and the fact that I am over him this no longer bothers me. Him wanting to be with her does bother me! is this normal or am I fooling myself by saying that I am over him? because I really feel like I am.
analyzetheworld Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Personally, I never trust just my feelings. Feelings are sporadic and inconsistent. Your conscious, thinking mind that is able to put connections, patterns, solutions together can be trusted. I think you will see that if you decide on the best course of action to take (which in this case seems to be to cut all contact with this guy), your feelings will eventually follow. First you must choose, and then your feelings will follow as a natural consequence of that decision. Good luck.
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I had this SAME ISSUE with my XH. I was good after we broke up. I moved on. I got a new BF. I was perfectly happy. Then 10 months after our divorce was finalized, he's engaged to a new girl that he had known about 6 weeks. It sucked! I don't want him back. I am over it. I asked my mom about this. She was really in love with her first husband...but they divorced because of really bad incompatibilities and other problems. Well - about 30 years and several relationships later on both their parts, he finally remarried. She was hurt by it because, as she put it - she always felt he would belong to her even if they could never work out. So yeah, I think it's normal. It's hard to think of someone you cared about so much moving on. They should spend the rest of their life pining after you and what they lost. LOL It's weird, but human emotion is like that.
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