VashX21 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 give you guys the scoop....i was basicly with this chick for nearly 6 years...everything was awesome although we had our problems as many people do. Any way our relationship was crazy...there was crazy love between us..there was times where we just held each other and just cried for hours...she would get jealous and hit me.... i cant even put into words how it was....THE FEELINGS BETWEEN US WERE AMAZING....anyway this ended 2 years ago...now...why cant i move on...we have a child together and i see her every two weeks or so and basicly she is married so that is another thing that i have to deal with...but like i said i just cant let her go. There have been many other women but when i am with them i cant get her out of my head.. there are periods whre i am content with life and then a random dreams squashes my reality...i really need help i am so close from going to a phsyc. now dont get me wrong im no stalker and im quiete normal when im around people but my mind is always working against me...it just hurts me sooo badly and so uncontrolably.... I dont love the way she is now...shes very attractive but her looks dont compare to the feelings that i feel...I AM still in love with the old her...how can i help myself out of this ditch....to me she will never be the same again...but its the old her i cannot let go off....i want to because my life has lost alll happiness....othr than my daughter there is not one other thng in this world that can make me happy....i kno this sounds a bit extremee but please dont get me wrong...i am not a suicidal freak i am just a guy pouring out his TRUEST feelings. help me please
lizzy_09 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 but like i said i just cant let her go. There have been many other women but when i am with them i cant get her out of my head.. The reason why you can't let her go is because you haven't fully healed what you felt for her. As such, it has affected you from dating other women. When relationships have gone bad and you end up break off with the person that have grown to care for. There comes a time when we'd recall all the good memories we've had together. All you've ever did was stand still instead of moving forward. You keep looking back to what once was, instead of what you should be doing now and what you want to achieve for your life. FOCUS........you want to move on with your life, then find some mental challenge. Look for a job that requires a lot of thinking about other people's life instead of yours. Don't get involve with other women right now till you've totally healed what you feel or you'll be ending up comparing every woman with her. Be an official to a civic club or organization. Find a sense of purpose by helping other people. You'll later on realize that other people have much worst problems then yours.
Athena Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 By any chance, did you grow up in an abusive household? Is this chaos and jealousy with resultant hitting you, the way you Feel and Know you are Loved? This could be due to the way you felt during your childhood. Can you go see a psychologist? A counselor can help you, especially since you have not been able to move on after two years, and you are stuck mentally.
ShannonTurner Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Have you ever heard of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)? It's supposed to be amazing help for you if you're feeling depressive in your case. Look it up on the internet. There is a website where you can download the maunal in order to learn the tapping techniques. It will help to releive some of the anxiety you're feeling about your ex. Give it a shot.
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