Harmony22 Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 What should I do ? I found out my wife was cheating on me with a local cop , popular in the community... I also know him ! I have endless calls/ messages from him on my wifes cell phone which I have put on CD and saved. He slept with my wife 3 times once in my home when he was YES on a SWAT training break. I confronted him and he blamed my wife , saying he was trying to help her sort out relationship issues and he and she were both comforting eachother , he is married with 3 kids too. We have four ! I know my wife and I had been experiencing a really bad time, I do have some anger and controlling issues ,I admit that. Basically the cop blamed my wife . I have made my wifes life a misery since . Yesterday I was at the beach and the cop was there with his famly having fun ! part of me wanted to run over and tell his wife but im trying not to go there and cause any more pain for anyone. My wife wasnt at the beach as I feel she doesnt deserve any fun with the kids ! The other part of my heart feels that my wife took all the blame and I have truly made her life a nightmare since which she deserves and I let this cop get away free. HELP !! should I tell his wife ?
tami-chan Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 I do have some anger and controlling issues ,I admit that. I'm sure that's "minor' and has not driven your wife in the arms of another. My wife wasnt at the beach as I feel she doesnt deserve any fun with the kids ! You are doing the right thing. You should deny your children their mother because she cheated....and while you are at it, you should draw up a plan of action where you can USE them to hurt their mother. The other part of my heart feels that my wife took all the blame and I have truly made her life a nightmare Then divorce her... what's keeping you? Why do you continue to make her life a living hell? HELP !! should I tell his wife ? Yes, tell the wife. Chances are she will stand by her man....OW/MM has already thrown your wife under the bus by blaming her about the affair. He will have a similar, more compelling ?) version to tell his wife.
SuicideBlonde Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 You need counseling for yourself. And if you want your marriage to work you both need to go to counseling. Denying your wife fun with the children? Are you serious? I can see how you might have some control issues. I know therapists are expensive, but you, your marriage, and your family are worth it.
mark982 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 i'd sure as hell tell the ow, but be prepared for what happens next,his fellow cops will really screw w/ you. hide behind their badges.
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