NYinTX Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 I met this girl once while visiting a friend of mine at college a few years ago. Other than that one night and the few words spoken between us, we have not talked to each other. There is just something about her I can't put my finger on that keeps her in my head. How do I go about asking her out without sending like a complete psycho stranger? Another thing that makes this hard is that I am in the military and stationed in Texas, she's on the east coast and I don't get too much time to go back that way. Thanks for any advice.
Confusedalways Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Do you both still talk to that mutual friend? You will need their help.
boogieboy Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Dont start a long distance thing unless you are permantly going to the east coast soon. If you dont know how to ask her out now, it can only end in disaster. Find a local girl in Tx.
Thornton Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Dont start a long distance thing unless you are permantly going to the east coast soon. If you dont know how to ask her out now, it can only end in disaster. Find a local girl in Tx. Unfortunately love doesn't work like that... it's rarely so convenient, and the heart doesn't recognise distance as a limiting factor. OP, first contact the mutual friend and find out if this girl is single. If she is, get her contact details and email her to say hi; maybe adding her on Facebook would be a good place to start. Try to strike up an online friendship and see how it goes, maybe meet up after a couple of months if all goes well... but don't push it, given the distance and the fact you hardly know each other you can't expect much more than friendship to begin with. If you can get chatting online and eventually meet up, you should take it from there... a solution to the problem of distance may present itself eventually.
boogieboy Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Unfortunately love doesn't work like that... it's rarely so convenient, and the heart doesn't recognise distance as a limiting factor. OP, first contact the mutual friend and find out if this girl is single. If she is, get her contact details and email her to say hi; maybe adding her on Facebook would be a good place to start. Try to strike up an online friendship and see how it goes, maybe meet up after a couple of months if all goes well... but don't push it, given the distance and the fact you hardly know each other you can't expect much more than friendship to begin with. If you can get chatting online and eventually meet up, you should take it from there... a solution to the problem of distance may present itself eventually. Its not even love, its an infatuation. Theres no need to romantasize something that hasnt even started yet. Im tryin to help him stop his infatuation with a girl that is completely inconvienent for him. He can stop doing it if he wants to. He can find a girl that lives where he does. Ive seen too many problems with LDR's just on this site alone to encourage him to start one. Let him let her loose. He barely talked to her, he can let her go without too much mental anguish. When he moves back to the east coast, he can go for her all he wants.
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