Giha Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Hey It has been 2.5 months since the break up, and 3 weeks since I started NC. Everything went fairly well until now, but in the past 3 days it all got bad. I started missing her alot, dreaming about her, recalling moments with her...it got really painful. Is this natural, this 'emotional rising' thing? I was doing really good until it started, but now I don't know..like i'm slipping away
kizik Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 It is TOTALLY normal. You'll find soon that the good moments outweigh the bad, but you can't expect the bad to just go away. Roll WITH the healing process; let yourself FEEL the pain. It is a normal part of recovery.
Author Giha Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 Um yeah i guess..its just so hard. I wanna get over her already, its getting pretty frustrating. Thanks for your comment
kizik Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 You can't rush recovery. Someone once said that it's like a forest you have to go through (or something) to get to the other side. There are no shortcuts. So just let it be. Surround yourself with friends and family. People who care about you who AREN'T the ex. Get involved in a group activity (sports, volunteering, school) and this will help add "meaning" to your life that has NOTHING to do with her.
NopeNah Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Like Kizik said it does get better with time. Something that also helped me was getting a new group of friends,male and female. Even though old friends are a great help and VERY important to me. It seems with my case my old friends became her friends to a point because of me. Now this doesn't mean that they talk to her and such. To be honest they never really liked her but, accepted her because of me. With the new group there also comes new experiences that my old friends and myself never did. This helps open your eyes up to more options that are out there. Basicly...it's a big world with lots of great people in it! Get out there and live your life for you and stop looking back!
Author Giha Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 Yeah I guess you're right. I was doing that but suddenly it all came back..oh well, i'll let time do it's thing. Thanks, both of you
Nedved Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Its normal to feel like that. I had a fairly rough day today to and my ex and I are broken up about 2 months. Lots of memories flying around my head. I think its all part of the process and i liked kizik's comparison to walking through a forest. Thats spot on. On the plus side tomorrow is the start of a new week and we've another weeks's NC under our belt.
hew Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 i know exactly how you feeel. its normal.. we all know it, its just nice to hear the advice from someone else. trust me , you'l have good days and bad days.. it sucks but sooner or later you will just stop caring and thinking about them. i still think of my ex. and ugh i dream about him every night !!! i hate that because i will have a good dream about him and miss him more and want him back.. but thats not the answer. just focus on yourself and not your ex. afterall they shouldnt be an important priority anymore. good luck !
Road To Joy Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Yes, it's completely normal. I promise. I went through that, too. I was doing fine and then all the memories came and I started having dreams about her. That was in like early June for me. Everything just kind of bombards you. And just recently I started missing our 'physical love' And no, I wasn't lusting after her. I actually missed all the emotions that came with everything we did. But anyways, that went away and it hasn't really come back since. But you never know! Just give it time, and don't let this make you break NC. That's what it almost made me do (the early June one, not now).
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