caudo Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 I need some advice please. I'm 23. This girl I like is friends with my ex-girlfriend. It's been 4 years since we've been 'friends'. And we've nearly hooked up about 3-4 times.. Before my ex was in the picture, we hooked up and just hugged etc. But the next day its like nothing ever happened. Then my best friend at the time started having feelings for her too. And I was being a dick, and being what I thought was a 'good friend', stood back and let him try to get her. Such a stupid move, I've learnt my lesson. So because of this I stopped talking to her for about 5 months. Then we started talking again and one day asked her if she would go out with me. She rejected. Then another few months later, we bumped into each other at a club. She came up to me, whilst drunk, and said she really does like me, I treat her really well but she can't let anything happen because of my ex. I was drunk too and asked her out again, instead of replying, we started kissing this time. Then the next day I told her .. look enough is enough we need to talk. So I asked her. Do you like me or do you like me as a friend? She said more than a friend. So I was being the good guy and said.. look since ur not sure, i think you should sleep on this. Then the next day nothing happened and everything just went back to square 1. What the hell is going on? It just feels like this is dragging on and on and on and nothing ever happens. I really really do love this girl, but I'm so confused and don't know how to approach or deal with it. And my heart is breaking everytime this stuff happens. It feels like I'm just hanging on and hoping for the best. While I'm sitting at home, thinking what the hell is going on, not even considering meeting new girls... When I know for a fact that shes been getting to know other guys. And I asked her.. why don't you hook up with any of them? She goes.. she has a problem trusting. Guys what the hell am I doing wrong? Am I being too serious? Am I wasting my time and should move on? How do I show/tell her that she can trust me? What do I do? Should we just be friends?
analyzetheworld Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 You're putting way too much time and energy into this one girl. She's obviously fickle at best in her feelings towards you, and so you need to take the message. Next time she then wants to get together, you need to tell her straight that you aren't putting up with her games any longer and you are not interested. If there is even a hint of interest on her part, that will spark it, because you're no longer "too available". Go and get on with your life. If you don't feel like meeting other women, go and find a hobby or hang with your buddies for a while. Get your mind off women - period. One thing that is really nice about hanging with the guys is that it's simple lol. Good luck
boogieboy Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Yeah you are WAAAY too available for this girls whim. At least ACT like you have a life and you might be too busy for her....make her wonder about you.
Author caudo Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 Thanks guys - I've been single for almost 4 years now, just hanging with the boys and it does get lonely but all I do is think of her. You guys are absolutely right. I live my life, make myself busy then go from there. Thanks!!!
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