crimsonangel Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 I'm having a problem and I need help. I have been in love with this girl for like the past 4 years and somehow I managed becoming her best friend. I asked her out last summer and she said that she loved me more than anyone and I'm her best friend but shes just not in love with me and she sees me as a brother, she told my friend it was because she didn't know how I would handle things because I never open up when I talk with her. I took her to both my homecoming and prom. Now lately shes been very affectionate towards me (much more than usual), constantly saying she loves me, forcing me to say it back and calling me sexy, cute and hot repeatedly. Today we went to the park where she carved into the bench "I heart her". She was also talking about all the drama in her life and that no one would love her. She even made it clear that she no longer was going out with her previous boy friend. Then later when we went back to my house she was looking over my yearbook I think, and started leaning towards me and we got extremely close while some random love song was playing lol. Now I'm thinking of asking her out again but over the past month I have really been striped of all my confidence and I have no idea what to say.
boogieboy Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Whats wrong with you??? You dont have to ask her out, youre already dating. She was already at your house and you two were getting close. Go get dinner or coffee, and when she leans in again, plant one on her. Theres no need for you to be nervous, just let nature take its course, and she will prolly lead anyway. Just keep it cool. You got her, theres no need to be nervous. If you try to kiss her and she refuses, then end the date right there and say "ill cya next time." But you cant put her up on a pedestal and worship her feet. Thats what put you in the friend zone in the first place.
saira Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Looks like she has come around and realised that other guys would never treat her as nice as u do, and she is sure u do like her so now she is ready. Take it easy and dont rush into an immediate relationship. recall you dont know her in that so u kinda have to do the dating thing and u try figure really if she coudl be someone you coudl be with. ofcourse it will be easier since you have known her for over 4 years. keep us updated.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 She was also talking about all the drama in her life and that no one would love her. Um. It sounds like she's lonely and desperate and she's now leaning on you as a fallback guy. Are you OK with being that guy? I mean, is this enough for men? Doesn't matter how or why you get the girl, as long as you do? Because it would never be good enough for me. Doesn't sound like a good idea. I say move on and find someone who is as excited about you as you are about her.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 ...over the past month I have really been striped of all my confidence and I have no idea what to say. What happened?
kizik Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 I mean, is this enough for men? Doesn't matter how or why you get the girl, as long as you do? I can tell you from personal experience that loneliness is a bad, bad thing, and that yes, when you've been totally alone for a long time, any scrap of attention is exciting. Not to justify being a fall-back guy - it's one of the crappiest things EVER. Just saying that I can understand where he's coming from.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Doesn't sound very self-respecting. That kind of attitude is probably why they have been just friends for so long. You need to work on your self-esteem, attitude, and confidence. I think moving forward with this girl would be bad news. It seems very unlikely that it would end well. Can you honestly expect to hold her attention, since you are just the consolation prize?
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