Shyguy0898 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 This aint a self pity thread just asking foradvice Hi all i met girl in town. We spoke kissed and all that exchanged numbers. Please bear in mind im a bit naive and never really had a long term girlfriend so what may sound obvious to you probably don't to me. Bear in mind that im 27 as well & just shy and obviously lack confidence through all this and had problems earlier in adult life which are sorted now. We Exhanged texts next few days all seemed good. got to later in the week asked her what she was doing evcn told her i would like to take her out she told me she was going out fri but was not going out in the rest of the weekend. (bit of an obvious hint maybe) however i couldnt take her out as car troubles. I texted her monday and told her my weekend was boring after explaining this. Also she was not to happy and asked who it was texting so i could tell i should have probably asked her out on one of these days. She Apologised after i told her it was me & she even replied aww bless you so thought i was forgiven. So thought i would phone her later in the week and ask her out on the phone at least i would know where i stood although she didnt answer and as i withheld my number can't grumble with this never left a message . Although i texted her and explained i tried to call her and she didnt answer and said i would calll another day she asked why i was ringing what was it for i even told her by text i was going to ask her out. However i called then but she didn't answer however was withheld so left it. Then Fri thought i would give it one last shot texted her said hi and ask how she was we exchanged a few texts she was quite response and explained who her whole plans for the weekend told her that i would like to take her out on Sat she had told previously told me she may have been going out. So asked anyway she said she but would text me today to let me know however i have not heard anything although those who are reading will probably not be surprised but please give me some advice. Guess it's time to move on but is hard as i like her and like i said i dont get that many number offers ? and advice she has replied to every text though and she was the one who gave the number out and i didn't even ask
analyzetheworld Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I can sympathize with your lack of confidence and inexperience with women...in fact a great deal of men everywhere can; so first of all, just take comfort knowing you are not alone in that. Now, you obviously don't have a lot of experience, and you also are not very confident in yourself. The first thing you need to understand is that women are looking for a man who can take care of them - thus they like men who are confident, for they make them feel secure and safe, like they can handle things. So, it is in your best interest to develop confidence. But you know what? That's not the reason you should work on confidence. The reason you should work on it, is because you are a worthwhile man, and you've come a long way in life, and worked hard to get to where you are, so you should be confident. Confidence comes from experience, but experience comes from learning. So, my advice is to look up on the internet for some dating guides and materials. The Art of Approaching is a very good e-book you can get for a few bucks, and it will be well worth your time. Lastly, and I cannot stress this enough, do not ever let your own self esteem hang on whether or not a woman responds to you. Women are fickle, as they are emotional beings, and they are NOT logical. Never take rejection personally, and just move on. First though, work on yourself. Get a book, join some online groups to discuss things (this is a good one) and get advice as you progress along. Most of the guys who are the best in the dating game came from a background just like you're describing. Frustration is a blessing, use it to fuel your determination not to fail, and you will succeed.
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