New_life Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I preffer letting out here cause I feel in a while Ill send a text to my ex and dont want to. Went in FB, i dont have her as a friend, but I have her friends and saw the pictures from last night, her with the guy that she now loves hugging and going out..... Its been 2 weeks in NC, she sent me a text a 2 days ago saying she was down. I also made up that an ex was coming back and i was going to hang out with her to forget. 2 days ago she sent me is she there? i didnt reply.. now i see those pics and it burns soooo much i mean 4 years, and she easily eliminates me??? please guys hold me back in texting her some stupid thing "ur fine without me"
asuman Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Don't torture yourself. If you don't have the willpower to stop from looking at her photos, defriend your mutual friends so you don't have access to them anymore.
LostInLimbo Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Don't torture yourself. If you don't have the willpower to stop from looking at her photos, defriend your mutual friends so you don't have access to them anymore. Take Asuman's advice, I have had some good advice on here , from several, that I used as a guideline, Asuman is one of the users/members that gives good advice..and or guidance. LIL
Author New_life Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 thanks for the words, eliminated the friends even though they were mine too. im still f up, i was doing great on nc, and this? Why would anyone just trash out 4 years without a little pinch in pain!
LostInLimbo Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 thanks for the words, eliminated the friends even though they were mine too. im still f up, i was doing great on nc, and this? Why would anyone just trash out 4 years without a little pinch in pain! NL, read my personal experience about breaking NC, in some of my posts, not to say that we are in the same situation, its just a generalization of what happened to me, breaking the NC, it prolong things for me, as mentioned, not saying that will happen to you and only you know your situation, I generally use LS for a type of guideline. LIL
Author New_life Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 lost, i read your thread, I feel every word they trying not to contact. What is LS?? Another question for all, so my ex is in town for 10 days, she already told me too meet up in a couple of hours. I feel the timing great to just stop thinking of my ex with his new bf. Will this work? Going out with the old ex??
asuman Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 thanks for the words, eliminated the friends even though they were mine too. im still f up, i was doing great on nc, and this? Why would anyone just trash out 4 years without a little pinch in pain! If you defriended any friends who really are genuine friends of yours, they will understand the reasons for your doing so. Friends tend to be very supportive about such situations. That's what friends are for.
NopeNah Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Why would anyone just trash out 4 years without a little pinch in pain! Because she was mentally leaving weeks/months before she actualy did the deed of breaking up with you. That's why it seems sudden to you and not her.. She left long before she physicaly left.
dxb Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Why would anyone just trash out 4 years without a little pinch in pain! Who says she's not in pain? Ever considered that her shacking up dead quick with another guy is her way of getting over stuff?
adamt Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Because she was mentally leaving weeks/months before she actualy did the deed of breaking up with you. That's why it seems sudden to you and not her.. She left long before she physicaly left. Great bit of advice. I'm a believer that when a woman breaks up with you she will have been thinking about it for a while. At the time of my break up it came as a shock and out of the blue. I went NC and a few weeks down the line my head was back to normal and i could see the warning signs that it wasnt sudden. I've not spoke to my ex since the split and its definately the best way to deal with it and try to move on.
asuman Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Great bit of advice. I'm a believer that when a woman breaks up with you she will have been thinking about it for a while. At the time of my break up it came as a shock and out of the blue. I went NC and a few weeks down the line my head was back to normal and i could see the warning signs that it wasnt sudden. I've not spoke to my ex since the split and its definately the best way to deal with it and try to move on. Same here, and at this point I feel like I'm basically done with her. No desire at all to see her or talk to her. The feeling of "I'm offended that she doesn't want me" has taken over the feeling of "I want[ed] her".
Author New_life Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 great advise, I know she left before, I just don't wan't to accept it.. It hurts to hear that, knowing I put my everything while she was just there empty.. Unfortunatly didnt hold in the NC, answered an old text from her saying is you ex there? I put "you and me with our new lifes, is there a reason for me not to go out with her?" --- answer: "if she makes you happy go ahead, best wishes" and later "it hurt me what you put, i didnt need to know that youre going out, etc" Is that a little bit of jealousy from her part?? Anyway, so yesterday I went out with my old ex, for a good amount of time. It helped alot she holded me back in contacting her. And in general brought new feelings, probably from rebund... Who knows?
SRTtoZ Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Girls like that are torture man and very immature. Posting pics and constantly going out with guys... I went out on a "date" the other night after breaking up with my GF a week and a few days ago...It was horrible...I had zero feelings and im just not ready to date someone else yet. Same goes for my Ex...She broke up with me for LEGIT reasons and I'm sure she just wants alone time and wants NOTHING to do with other guys right now. My ex hasnt been on Facebook since we broke up...Which is very unlike her. You need to let a girl like that go because shes acting very immaturely.
asuman Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 great advise, I know she left before, I just don't wan't to accept it.. It hurts to hear that, knowing I put my everything while she was just there empty.. Unfortunatly didnt hold in the NC, answered an old text from her saying is you ex there? I put "you and me with our new lifes, is there a reason for me not to go out with her?" --- answer: "if she makes you happy go ahead, best wishes" and later "it hurt me what you put, i didnt need to know that youre going out, etc" Is that a little bit of jealousy from her part?? Anyway, so yesterday I went out with my old ex, for a good amount of time. It helped alot she holded me back in contacting her. And in general brought new feelings, probably from rebund... Who knows? You said it yourself. This is a perfect setup for a rebound. I'd be careful if I were you.
Beeotch Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 I preffer letting out here cause I feel in a while Ill send a text to my ex and dont want to. Went in FB, i dont have her as a friend, but I have her friends and saw the pictures from last night, her with the guy that she now loves hugging and going out..... Its been 2 weeks in NC, she sent me a text a 2 days ago saying she was down. I also made up that an ex was coming back and i was going to hang out with her to forget. 2 days ago she sent me is she there? i didnt reply.. now i see those pics and it burns soooo much i mean 4 years, and she easily eliminates me??? please guys hold me back in texting her some stupid thing "ur fine without me" You already think it is stupid...so don't do it. Just because she is going out with other people doesn't mean she has eliminated you or doesn't care about you.
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