Dexter Morgan Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Last night I was thinking about the "Why does the OW...?" thread and I kind of laughed out loud when I thought of this: Why do so many BWs seem to say "Why would the OW even want to be with a man who's a proven cheater?" even if maybe the guy has only cheated once. because some of us wouldn't want someone like that. Some people are fine with being with someone that is a cheat.....some aren't. Simple as that. It seems funny to me that I've never seen anyone say, "Yeah, I can empathize with the OW for wanting my H -- he's handsome, smart and I fell in love with him too!" I don't care how good looking a woman is, smart...whatever, if I know her to be a betrayer/cheater....I'm not going to want anything to do with her. I mean, do we suddenly forget that the guy once seemed like a great catch? Is one infidelity all it takes to cancel all that out in our heads? to some of us, yes.
Spark1111 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I am not surprised she found him charming, attractive, powerful within the company they worked in together. What was most hurtful for me to discover was that, while he was home complaining, distancing himself from us, he WAS the most-perfect gentleman; courteous, chivalrous, considerate to her and her needs. I had not seem that effort in my behalf for a very long time, way before he met her. I, too, could have fallen madly in love AGAIN, with the man he portrayed himself to be when with HER. But I got the kids, the bills, and his dirty socks.
Reggie Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I can understand his attraction to my XWW. She is quite good looking and can be fun. The guy's naivete, however, is truly astounding. He thought he was going to marry her. Now we have 3 kids, who were not about to accept a cheater. And, my XWW's family would never, ever allow him into their family. I just don't know what these two dumbasses were thinking. The afair imploded within a year of them living together. My kids were on my XWW all the time telling her that they did not want this guy as their stepdad. The guy could attend no family functions and could not meet her family. And, the truly amazing thing is that if they wanted to be together, all she had to do was refrain from cheating and ask for a divorce. Who could stop her? Then, everyone would have accepted him.
Spark1111 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Dumbasses! Love it Reggie. My children are all young adults, and I talked them out of marching onto her doorstep to give her a piece of their mind's! I wonder if I regret that now. Yes, could have separated divorced and been together forever. Telling, isn't it, he never made a move in that direction with her. She bought the line that he needed enough money to take care of his family and it would take five years to reach his financial goals before they could be together! HAHAHAHA. God forbid I pre-decease him, because she is effectively the one person on the planet he could NEVER recconnect with if he wanted any relationship with his children and his family.
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