aloneanddepressed Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Even though my relationship is over, I have to admit, I would love for my ex to contact me in the future, so I can treat him just like he did me.....and flat out ignore him back. Call me childish, but I do not care. OK, so unfortunately, for the past few weeks, I had my share of attempting to call him, sending him messages online, and even some ones clearly implicating my anger towards his actions. I may have went a bit overboard, but what does he expect, he never told me its over or gave me the time of day..he disappeared. I have decided to have no contact with him, as of today. My question is, do you think once you have smothered the person with trying to contact them a numerous amount of times, you missed your chance of them ever contacting you again? How long do you normally have to go with NC without them possibly coming around? Thanks
boogieboy Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 The whole idea of NC is you dont WANT them to come around. If you are doing it to expect them to contact you, youre not in the right frame of mind. Now you just want revenge. That isnt going to help you heal. If he contacted you and you ignored him, it wont make you feel any better, believe me, I know. He doesnt answer your contact attempts because you are a pain in the ass! He will never contact you again because he knows unless its two years later and you have someone youre deeply involved with, you will just be a pain in the ass again. So dont wait around for him to contact you. You pushed too hard, It most likely wont happen. He moved on, and you need to also. Fix your world that doesnt include thought about him. Find another guy that will appreciate you...access what you might have done wrong to drive this man away and dont do it with the next guy. Flirt with some guys and get your confidence back. Find something, anything to keep your mind off your ex. Vent where you have to. Theres other threads on this board where you can write a letter to your ex, but post it here instead of to him.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 Its not only to get revenge, maybe I really do want to obtain some unanswered questions if he contacts me. Right now, I can't help but want to seek revenge though. He has truly hurt me. If he was mature/man enough in the first place to answer my simple phone call, I wouldn't have been provoked to come across as a "pain in the ass", if that in fact is what he sees me as. "he will NEVER contact me again"? wow, that is a bit extreme, but thank you for the reply The whole idea of NC is you dont WANT them to come around. If you are doing it to expect them to contact you, youre not in the right frame of mind. Now you just want revenge. That isnt going to help you heal. If he contacted you and you ignored him, it wont make you feel any better, believe me, I know. He doesnt answer your contact attempts because you are a pain in the ass! He will never contact you again because he knows unless its two years later and you have someone youre deeply involved with, you will just be a pain in the ass again. So dont wait around for him to contact you. You pushed too hard, It most likely wont happen. He moved on, and you need to also. Fix your world that doesnt include thought about him. Find another guy that will appreciate you...access what you might have done wrong to drive this man away and dont do it with the next guy. Flirt with some guys and get your confidence back. Find something, anything to keep your mind off your ex. Vent where you have to. Theres other threads on this board where you can write a letter to your ex, but post it here instead of to him.
boogieboy Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Its not only to get revenge, maybe I really do want to obtain some unanswered questions if he contacts me. Right now, I can't help but want to seek revenge though. He has truly hurt me. If he was mature/man enough in the first place to answer my simple phone call, I wouldn't have been provoked to come across as a "pain in the ass", if that in fact is what he sees me as. "he will NEVER contact me again"? wow, that is a bit extreme, but thank you for the reply You want to put a wager on whether or not he will contact you again? I will put $100 that he wont. And even if he does, hes not going to give you answers. The cowards never do. Just be happy that he isnt stringing you along, there arent many like that. I understand revenge, but its out of your hands, Do you really want to suffer and wait, wasting precious summer time until you get a chance, instead of living life? Its summer! Find someone new to enjoy the summer with..thats what Im tryin to do. What you dont seem to understand is that chasing him for answers that he doesnt want to give you is also immature. You should be grown up enough to accept that he wants nothing to do with you, and you dont want anyone who wants nothing to do with you. (took me 2 months to do that btw)
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