moo Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I'm sure a lot of you know that Steve McNair was killed by his girlfriend. According to CNN and other news reports, the girlfriend was dating Steve McNair who was married. The girlfriend also believed that Steve McNair was dating yet another woman. She killed him and killed herself. The only thing I did to my ex was call him and email him, but I took this as a wake up call. I believe this is what happens when your anger and pain get a hold of you so tightly that you can go down that extreme road. That was a huge wake up call. McNair was not worth this girl's life but also, what McNair was doing and might have been doing did not justify murder. After I read that the police did confirm the fact that this was a murder-suicide...I wised up quickly. I have let go of much of my anger and I am working on accepting things. I am not contacting him either. I am going to really try not to send emails and not to make phone calls. My ex bf really is worthless. I feel sorry for him. He's someone elses problem. I don't have to live my life in so much pain and misery. Besides, truth be told, after the way he treated me, I don't want him back. I miss him with everything I am, but unless he was interested in some DEEP, long term therapy or a personality transplant, I don't want him back. He can now inflict all of his arrogance and selfishness on his new girlfriend. Now, I still let myself cry, but it is not as intense and not as much. When I feel myself getting very anxious, I do some deep breathing to calm myself down. That is much better than contacting him and demanding an explanation that he will never give me, or lie about.
Trialbyfire Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 moo, the affair triangle is some seriously effed up stuff. If this is what you were involved in, consider yourself lucky that you got out. The only person who benefits from an affair, is the cheater. McNair found out that sometimes, there's a price to be paid to cake eat.
Author moo Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 I wasn't involved in a triangle, but I was filled with anger and pain because of his treatment towards me...intense anger and pain. I'm so much better now.
asuman Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 moo, the affair triangle is some seriously effed up stuff. If this is what you were involved in, consider yourself lucky that you got out. The only person who benefits from an affair, is the cheater. McNair found out that sometimes, there's a price to be paid to cake eat. I doubt his murder had anything to do with his "eating cake" i.e., his cheating. She was a jealous nutcase and he was probably preparing to break it off with her, which she found unacceptable. She shot him to death as he slept on the couch, then tried to sit down next to him and kill herself so she would wind up dead in his lap. She failed, and wound up lying next to his feet. I can relate to McNair only in the sense that when I was 33 and on the heels of a broken serious relationship, I had a relationship with a gorgeous young girl who was 21. It was a rebound and she was nuts. When things ended, she lost it and began stalking me and acting like a crazy person. All I can say about this is that when someone is mentally imbalanced, you will hopefully recognize the signs and protect yourself if necessary when the situation becomes dangerous.
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