Nagini Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 My ex boyfriend I spent the last 9 weeks slowly talking and even went on a great date last weekend. but two days ago i noticed he added some low class looking dancer to his personal facebook (his personal facebook only has close friends on there) now today suddenly all his wall posts are hidden and i cant post i asked him what's up and he acted angry at ME for noticing is this a very bad sign or just a glitch like he claimed ? he also DELETED MY COMMENTS OFF his last 5 status updates, plus 3 other girls BUT kept his male friends comments up ... or if he blocked me from his facebook wall does it also block my comments showing ?
EYECANDY000 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 You answered your own questions. You stated that he deleted your last 5 comments, and you think its a glitch in the system?
Thornton Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Sounds like he went into privacy settings and changed them so you couldn't view certain things on his page, such as his wall and relationship status etc. Perhaps he has something to hide, like maybe something is going on with that dancer? It's a bad sign given that he's also deleting all your comments off his page... he definitely has something to hide...
Author Nagini Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 I really am in shock. he knows that facebook is a BIG deal for both of us. its how we've staye din touch while apart. we both have our separate pages for our work on facebook. i know that his personal page only has people close to him. i noticed he ALSO deleted the comments of woman. she dated him 15 yrs ago and foudn him on fb. he was making fun of her at dinner last week saying shes kinda nutty so her posts AND mine have vanished. If I step outside of myself it looks HORRIBLE. it looks like he doesnt want some new woman to see my posts and/or he doesnt want me to see new wall posts. I am devastated. I worked very slowly with him to rebuild trust and was feeling very calm and warmly towards him and now this ?
Author Nagini Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 You answered your own questions. You stated that he deleted your last 5 comments, and you think its a glitch in the system? no i dont because i just noticed he also deleted the only photo comments i made on his photos.
Author Nagini Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 Why was trust lost in the first place? he kept cancelling dates and being late and I thought he was cheating i broke it off without giving him chance to defend himself he did explain himself and he had ironclad reason/alibis for everything that all checked out but he has been hurt by me not trusting him. this was such a long 9-10 weeks apart and our last date was so good i dont know what happened in space of 15 hours !
Lucky_One Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Too many trust issues for a R. If you break up with a guy without talking to him because you think he is cheating, then you have communication issues. If a guy keeps breaking dates and being late without reasonable explanations BEFORE you break up with him, then he isn't all that into you. He apparently isn't all that into you now, either. Time to learn lessons from this one, and move on.
redant Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I agree sounds pretty bad. You will get through it. Been there. Take care of yourself and don't believe in him anymore.
Author Nagini Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 I agree sounds pretty bad. You will get through it. Been there. Take care of yourself and don't believe in him anymore. See that's what I'm mourning right now. I opened myself up to him again on our date (no we didnt even come close to having sex whatsoever, i told him that would only be if we're exclusive again) I'm deeply bereft that i can't EVER believe in him again.
Bayern Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Facebook is a very glitchy networking site, but this is no glitch. Even if somehow you weren't allowed to see his wall and this was a glitch, it would be in no way related to the deleted comments. Simply he's being a little more private - but that doesn't mean he is moving on. Perhaps he needs his own space. This is a bad comparison, but my mother has been thinking of getting a facebook after one of her old friends told her to make one. If I did friend her, I'd probably block some things. That's not to say I don't love my saint of a mother! You get the picture...
Jilly Bean Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 You're not dating him, correct? You are not in a relationship, correct? I can understand why he is cutting you off the facebook thing. You accused him of cheating in the past, you said he wasn't actually cheating, and now you are checking his page and calling him on it AND you're not in a relationship with him! Sure way to make a guy run is to do this kind of thing. Regardless, you clearly have no trust for him, and he has no interest in a relationship with you, so move on. There's no point in continuing on with this, except to make yourself more upset.
Author Nagini Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 so now he called me a little while ago like nothing is amiss finally after 25 minutes of idle chatter i again mentioned the deleted comments and fact i cant see his wall or post on it now he is back tracking and blaming facebook again and then turned it on me and said i'm hard to please. what ? omg he's insane.
2sunny Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 just dump him. i would have no use for someone who tries to manipulate me and make me feel bad while pretending that he's not doing either one...
WhyMe1980 Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Time to move on. Absolutely. He is not well. No need to get in the middle of his issues.
Author Nagini Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 I PRIDE myself on being a brainiac. and I JUST figured out what's up there is only person in the universe whom he still worships his ex wife funny but BEFORE he and i started dating she hadnt spoken to him in 8 months but bam the moment we were a real in love item SHE started wooing him well i just checked things out he added her as a friend tonight ! (AND SUBTLY DELETED THE ACTION, but i checked his friends lists) haha liar liar liar he doesnt want her to see my posts and vice versa i wish them well PSYCHOS
Author Nagini Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 just dump him. i would have no use for someone who tries to manipulate me and make me feel bad while pretending that he's not doing either one... oh dont you recall ? you gave me great sage advice on this clown around valentine's day I finally took it ....temporarily....... turns out he was cheating on me with his ex wife it seems as of tonight !
2sunny Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 omg, i completely forgot. just goes to show anyone - that a persons actions seem to tell way more than the words they use. he's still playing you for the fool? show him who's in charge and who won't tolerate bad behavior... delete him as a friend on facebook as well as your life. do not go back checking on him every day!!!! spend the time and energy with friends who actually show you the consideration to be called a friend.
Author Nagini Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 omg, i completely forgot. just goes to show anyone - that a persons actions seem to tell way more than the words they use. he's still playing you for the fool? show him who's in charge and who won't tolerate bad behavior... delete him as a friend on facebook as well as your life. do not go back checking on him every day!!!! spend the time and energy with friends who actually show you the consideration to be called a friend. luckily i've learned to date others in the last couple months. i already have someone of interest and a backup behind that. in a way i feel sorry for him. he doesnt see that his ex only started showing him attention after she heard i had met his son and ALL their oldest mutual friends. i had feeling in my gut that his son tattled to her about me and i was right (i actually loved the kid and we got along so well talking about current events and stuff) she was threatened and jealous and now my ex boyfriend is back with her. he also told me something ominous and revealing two weeks ago. that she told him his mother and sister hated her and were mean to her. so he BELIEVED her and actually sent the most hateful letter to his own flesh and blood. he doesnt see who this ex wife is at heart. im honestly not that angry because i was once in the same situation. i missed out on many awesome men because i was hung up on an ex who only wanted me when i had moved on. my now twice exbf is in denial. i wish them no ill , but am done again thank you 2Sunny for helping plant those seeds of doubt which eventually helped me pull away the first time around. all the best !
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