LostInLimbo Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I have been down a long road with my Ex GF of 3 yrs, reading my posts, she has left me 3 times, cheated with the same guy on me twice, recently bout 3 weeks ago, we started Txting again, she had askd to go for coffee and we did, which we also went to our prior councelling meeting I had scheduled just after she left me, 2 months ago. After the councelling everything went so well, or I thought and she gave me that impression, we hung out closely for 2 weeks, both had fun, or so I assumed, then she ignored my txts after her telling me to call her, til I finally said if you wanna end it tell me, so she textd me and said "Were done" My last message to her recently was to cut off all ties between us, we need to deal with some issues and I further went on to say in a text, " If I was told 3yrs ago, we would never be together or talk, I would have never beleived it" she replied " I would have believed it 2yrs ago" so that did it for me, cut her cell off and all, in which she txtd me to ask why I would do that without warning, after she just told me too. But this is what I don't get, after being strung along, or so I feel, because she said she came back as she thought it would work, I don't get why I am having a hard time with this, I do know I have to let go and I am slowly, with no urges to Text her, but in the same, I don't want her to textd me as it confuses me more, but once again, feels so hard to let go, not sure what to do, but know what I have to do, the last thing she had text me was to say that she was now working, I said ok, that ended that...with no word from her in 3 days. Lost but getting better slowly
Thaddeus Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 The reason you're having a hard time with this is because she's messing with your head by contacting you after she explicitly stated that she "were (sic) done." Full NC is the only way to go here (as it is in most cases of relationship break-up). The longer you go full NC, the better you'll feel.
Author LostInLimbo Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 The reason you're having a hard time with this is because she's messing with your head by contacting you after she explicitly stated that she "were (sic) done." Full NC is the only way to go here (as it is in most cases of relationship break-up). The longer you go full NC, the better you'll feel. Thanks Thaddeus, its sad I know that but yet have a hard time following it, I say sad that I know that, because its happened 3 times to me by her and I usually get a general idea of whats to follow, only this time, its been our longest seperation, excluding the meeting. LIL
Thaddeus Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Recent studies seem to suggest that addictions to things like cocaine fire off the same pleasure centres that get fired when someone falls in love. When one loses a loved one through whatever means, the brain actually goes through a type of withdrawal with all the attendant discomforts. It makes for fascinating reading: Love And Drug Addiction Share The Same Chemistry The same study shows that, "the frequency of sex determines the bonding between two individuals." When sex is withheld, the bond starts to diminish.
Author LostInLimbo Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 Recent studies seem to suggest that addictions to things like cocaine fire off the same pleasure centres that get fired when someone falls in love. When one loses a loved one through whatever means, the brain actually goes through a type of withdrawal with all the attendant discomforts. It makes for fascinating reading: Love And Drug Addiction Share The Same Chemistry The same study shows that, "the frequency of sex determines the bonding between two individuals." When sex is withheld, the bond starts to diminish. Thanks Again Thaddeus
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