aloneanddepressed Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 My relationship with my boyfriend is over as of now, but recently I was able to find out something that is questionable on my part. My ex has a facebook account, but I do not. Of course, like most people his profile is only viewable to his friends. A friend of mine recently added him, because we both were curious what he had going on, on his page. My friend was able pick up on the fact that he never changed his relationship status from single. He has approximately 400 people on there, although a good mixture of men and women. She also noticed that he had this speed dating application downloaded, and it said something like "he flirted with so in so". Apparently he was advertising himself as single and participating in online dating. According to the date of the activities on his profile, this was while we were still supposedly together. We broke up around the 25th of June, and it said he was on this speed dating device around the 17th? So, anyways, he ignored me after an argument, so this entire time I thought the breakup without a doubt had to do with the argument....but as you see he might have already been fishing around for someone else. There were also other messages from girls, but my friend doesn't know if there was any romantic activity going on or not. Not even sure when he accessed the Speed Dating application. It makes me sick he was acting all happy and like he really loved me and cared, but I think he was keeping his options open by saying he was single, and looking for other girls. I didn't have Facebook, so he knew I wouldn't see this. So, is this considered cheating or what do you think of this?
dgiirl Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 The definition of cheating sometimes differs between people. Some people think masturbation is cheating. Other people are absolutely fine with it. Some people think strip clubs is cheating, other people are absolutely fine with it. Some people thinking kissing is cheating, other people are absolutely fine with it. It _really_ depends on how YOU define cheating and HOW you communicate that definition to your boyfriends. Both partners need to set the rules to what is considered cheating and what is not. In this case, it does not seem like you communicated this definition to your boyfriend, and now after you guys broke up, you are looking for anything to place blame on him for the breakup. Just deal with the fact that you guys are broken up and heal from there.
motive2002 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Anything you have to be sneaky about and hide from your SO is cheating imo. Also about the argument, that's just BS. You are trying to blame yourself for the guy being a player? Yeah, not your fault. Just leave him behind where he belongs.
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