Jump to content

I think my new lover is a liar!!!

Lizzie60

By Lizzie60
in Dating

 Share
While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

wildbill New Member

wildbill

Posted
Posted

What makes you think he lying? Has he called you by the wrong name?:eek:

When he is having sex with you does he mumble a name?:mad:

Give us more facts then we will help you!:rolleyes:

AlektraClementine Established Member

AlektraClementine

Posted
Posted
That is what she is wondering about, isn't it?

 

She wants to know what the story is with this man.

 

Back to square one.

 

 

Yes, but I think the other posters (have to include myself here) think that she's just getting a taste of what she's been perpetuating and feeding into by getting involved with liars. Meaning, if you lay with dogs, you're gonna get dirty. And no MM who's screwing around on his wife is above lying to the mistress. Lying is part of his character. Why she should so adamantly find that she is above being lied to is strange.

 

That's all. Just mere commentary really. I assume commentary is okay on loveshack, no?

Ariadne Established Member

Ariadne

Posted
Posted

Why she should so adamantly find that she is above being lied to is strange.

 

She never said she is above anything, she just posted all the things her new guy has been telling her.

 

Just like any other person would be concerned.

CLC2008 Established Member

CLC2008

Posted
Posted
Of course it is a concern for her, because she wants to know if she'll let her feelings for him grow:

 

That's terrific.

 

So for arguement's sake, say he is married, and he told her he was married from day one.

 

What. Is. The. Difference. He. Is. Marrrrrrrrrrriieeeeeeeeed.

 

Good grief Linus!

Ariadne Established Member

Ariadne

Posted
Posted

(And what's with the "taste the medicine the BSs feel when they are being lied by their husbands!"?)

AlektraClementine Established Member

AlektraClementine

Posted
Posted

not an exact quote but you get the picture

 

 

I know.. but in my case, I don't want a liar.. I don't really care if he lies to someone else.. just NOT TO ME... :p
Ariadne Established Member

Ariadne

Posted
Posted
not an exact quote but you get the picture

 

That just means she doesn't want to be lied to.

 

What he does with his life outside of that, is none of her business.

 

Do you want Lizzie to go around the world reforming people?

Touche Established Member

Touche

Posted
Posted

This whole thread is hilarious. I mean really. She doesn't want anyone to lie to HER yet she laughs and has mocked those of us who've declared that our SO's have never lied to US. Mine never has. And he's never cheated on me. But look at her past posts. She mocks that assertion saying we don't REALLY know and every single man on the planet cheats.:rolleyes:

 

So which is it here? Is she looking for the ONE man on the planet who doesn't lie or cheat or does she want what some of us already have and have been tellng her we have? Hmmmm....Methinks it's the latter.;);)

AlektraClementine Established Member

AlektraClementine

Posted
Posted
That just means she doesn't want to be lied to.

 

What he does with his life outside of that, is none of her business.

 

Do you want Lizzie to go around the world reforming people?

 

Oh dear. I see this going back and forth too much. Like I said, people are merely commenting upon this situation after having read much of Lizzie's posts about screwing around with other peoples' husbands/fathers. They have no sympathy for her if she IS being lied to.

 

Not like some woman posting about her husband or BF possibly lying to them. In that case, they may find sympathy and offer advice. Some of us have nothing other than "oh well, get what you give" to say. Maybe that's mean-spirited but oh well.

 

Lizzie, let me ask you this. Have you ever been confronted by a wife? What happened and how did you feel afterwords? You don't have to answer. It's not really what this thread is about and I don't mean to threadjack. Just curious.

Ruby Slippers Established Member

Ruby Slippers

Posted
Posted
She never said she is above anything...

 

I don't really care if he lies to someone else.. just NOT TO ME...

Here Lizzie suggests the unfairness of her being lied to, when her behavior with married men routinely enables the very behavior (lying to women, their wives) that she condemns.

 

She justifies her lifestyle by putting all the responsibility for integrity and judgment on her customers, but the elephant in the room is that it takes two to tango, and she herself is an accessory to each and every infidelity. Basically, to draw a simple analogy, the MM is committing tax fraud, and she is his crooked accountant. Or he is the bank robber who actually takes the money and runs, and she is driving the getaway car. Both of them are getting "paid".

 

She surrounds herself with cheaters and liars, so that is what she will attract, as long as continues her current lifestyle.

 

Nobody really gets away with anything.

  • Author
Lizzie60 Established Member

Lizzie60

Posted
  • Author
Posted
I find most people here being narrow and judgemental. Mixing one thing with another.

 

She is starting to have a relationship with this man, and is wondering if the guy is being honest.

 

 

You're one of the few who actually gets it.. ;)

  • Author
Lizzie60 Established Member

Lizzie60

Posted
  • Author
Posted
Of course it is a concern for her, because she wants to know if she'll let her feelings for him grow:

 

Right on again!!! :)

Ariadne Established Member

Ariadne

Posted
Posted
You're one of the few who actually gets it.. ;)

 

Yeah. These people have issues.

 

They should go to a therapist or something. :rolleyes:

Touche Established Member

Touche

Posted
Posted
Yeah. These people have issues.

 

They should go to a therapist or something. :rolleyes:

 

Yeah, I need a therapist. :rolleyes:

 

Look, no offense Ariadne, but you really DON'T get it. You just don't. She's being exposed for the hypocrite that she is. Why can't you see that?

  • Author
Lizzie60 Established Member

Lizzie60

Posted
  • Author
Posted
Oh dear. I see this going back and forth too much. Like I said, people are merely commenting upon this situation after having read much of Lizzie's posts about screwing around with other peoples' husbands/fathers. They have no sympathy for her if she IS being lied to.

 

Not like some woman posting about her husband or BF possibly lying to them. In that case, they may find sympathy and offer advice. Some of us have nothing other than "oh well, get what you give" to say. Maybe that's mean-spirited but oh well.

 

Lizzie, let me ask you this. Have you ever been confronted by a wife? What happened and how did you feel afterwords? You don't have to answer. It's not really what this thread is about and I don't mean to threadjack. Just curious.

 

Only once.. with a MM who said he was single.. again.. I can't stand not knowing if he's taken or not.. that's all.. I want to know..

 

When I called at his place (that was about 6 years ago)... a woman answered.. I asked for D... she said she was his W and to not hang up... she wanted to talk to me.. I was shocked.. he told me for 6 months that he was single.. We (his W and I) set up a plan to catch him.. that's what SHE wanted for sooo many years..... to finally have the 'proof' she soooo wanted and I was the only one who could help her...

 

I was sooo pissed at him for not telling me the truth that I got along with her plan.. (very smart plan btw).. so she caught us.. but mind you.. it didn't change anything.. he had cheated on her for the past 20 years she told me.. but she's still with him today.. :rolleyes: regardless of the 'proof' she so needed.

 

It was the only time.. with my MMs.. I make sure it's safe, and we will NOT get caught.. as I don't want them to leave their family..

AlektraClementine Established Member

AlektraClementine

Posted
Posted
Yeah. These people have issues.

 

They should go to a therapist or something. :rolleyes:

 

On what basis would you make a statement like that?

  • Author
Lizzie60 Established Member

Lizzie60

Posted
  • Author
Posted
Yeah. These people have issues.

 

They should go to a therapist or something. :rolleyes:

 

 

No.. but.. I'm not the only one who started a thread about having doubts on a 'brand new' potential relationship... really!!!:rolleyes:

 

Plus I have read many times that some OWs would not tolerated to be 'cheated' on... it's OK for him to have the W.. she's already there.. but to have another OW.. no way.. :mad:

Lucky_One Established Member

Lucky_One

Posted
Posted

I just think this thread is sort of...cool. It made me giggle. Lizzie has gotten bested by a MM - too funny.

sally4sara Established Member

sally4sara

Posted
Posted

You got the lies the MM tell their wives. Those are okay as long as the OP is the one "in the know"?

You got the lies being told to the OP. THOSE are somehow way worse?

 

Totally see where the OP is coming from. :rolleyes:

 

Is it Sociopaths who think they are the only people who matter or Narcissists?

Ruby Slippers Established Member

Ruby Slippers

Posted
Posted
Plus I have read many times that some OWs would not tolerated to be 'cheated' on... it's OK for him to have the W.. she's already there.. but to have another OW.. no way.. :mad:

Just like so many strippers say they would NEVER allow their man to go to a strip club. The moral relativism and self-centered delusion are completely laughable.

  • Author
Lizzie60 Established Member

Lizzie60

Posted
  • Author
Posted
I just think this thread is sort of...cool. It made me giggle. Lizzie has gotten bested by a MM - too funny.

 

Well I don't know that yet.. but I will verrry soon.. :D

Ruby Slippers Established Member

Ruby Slippers

Posted
Posted
Is it Sociopaths who think they are the only people who matter or Narcissists?

I am also wondering about the pathology here. :o

Adunaphel Established Member

Adunaphel

Posted
Posted
Yeah, I need a therapist. :rolleyes:

 

Look, no offense Ariadne, but you really DON'T get it. You just don't. She's being exposed for the hypocrite that she is. Why can't you see that?

 

Exposing seems to have become the unofficial and yet most popular hobby on LS. :rolleyes::rolleyes:

 

Like Lizzie60 needed exposure - she is being herself from day 1.

  • Author
Lizzie60 Established Member

Lizzie60

Posted
  • Author
Posted
You got the lies the MM tell their wives. Those are okay as long as the OP is the one "in the know"?

You got the lies being told to the OP. THOSE are somehow way worse?

 

Totally see where the OP is coming from. :rolleyes:

 

Is it Sociopaths who think they are the only people who matter or Narcissists?

 

No my MM do not need to lie to the W.. because the W has absolutely no clues at all.. so why would the MM lie to her?

 

and

 

Puuulllleeeezze... unless you are a psychiatrist.. don't analyze me..:sick:

Touche Established Member

Touche

Posted
Posted
You got the lies the MM tell their wives. Those are okay as long as the OP is the one "in the know"?

You got the lies being told to the OP. THOSE are somehow way worse?

 

Totally see where the OP is coming from. :rolleyes:

 

Is it Sociopaths who think they are the only people who matter or Narcissists?

 

BINGO!

 

And see here's the thing, Ariadne. I do get where you're coming from with this however, the issue with a regular posting about a problem is that we know too much about the OP's history. It's not like a newbie posting this problem. If we knew nothing about her background we'd be supporting her right now. I get that that's kind of where you're coming from.

 

BUT...we do know. You can't "un-ring" a bell. That's why some regulars post their problems under other IDs. They know that we all know too much and may not be able to be completely unbiased.

 

But the other side of the coin there is that people are providing advice without sufficient background knowledge.

 

Anyway, what advice is there really to give here? If a person is THAT distrustful of who they're sleeping with, then they need to drop them like a hot potato and examine why they started sleeping with someone they didn't know all that well to begin with.

 

Other than that, what more is there to say?

While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!
Guest
This topic is now closed to further replies.
 Share
Go to topic listing
×
×
  • Create New...