Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Something is odd with this guy.. We have amazing sex.. but he won't sleep over.. his cell phone is off after work... I have never seen him on weekends.. he told me his address but the no. doesn't exist.. (unless I heard the wrong number)... Something doesn't add up.. I confronted him... he swore on his son's head that he is single... I just don't get it.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Did you ask him about the number that you said did not exist? Link to post Share on other sites
skjd1220 Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Does he provide any explanation for not using his cell phone after work or why he won't stay at your house? I say trust your gut on this one. To be honest, if he is a cheater..he probably also has not problem 'swearing on his son's head' either. You know something doesn't add up ... Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Lizzie, what if he isn't single?? Are you really into this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 Did you ask him about the number that you said did not exist? not yet.. I will tell him that I forgot what number he gave me... just to see if he tells me the same number again.. I checked yesterday on my way to my daughter's place. Link to post Share on other sites
grogster Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Something is odd with this guy.. We have amazing sex.. but he won't sleep over.. his cell phone is off after work... I have never seen him on weekends.. he told me his address but the no. doesn't exist.. (unless I heard the wrong number)... Something doesn't add up.. I confronted him... he swore on his son's head that he is single... I just don't get it.. Lizzie, are you serious or are you mocking? If your accounting is factual, of course he's married. Why is that a problem for you? Have you had a change of heart? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 Does he provide any explanation for not using his cell phone after work or why he won't stay at your house? I say trust your gut on this one. To be honest, if he is a cheater..he probably also has not problem 'swearing on his son's head' either. You know something doesn't add up ... Yes.. that's the thing.. he has an explanation for everything... He said he turns his cell phone off after work because he doesn't want to be bothered for work.. he said he has no home phone.. just his cell.. he said he would leave it on if I want him to.. Then the reason for not sleeping over is ... that he can't sleep well when he's not in his 'things'... plus everytime he says he has no clothes to change.. Soooo weird.. the only time he told me he would sleep over (at the beginning) when the night came.. he 'broke off' with me saying he couldn't give me enough time.. because he's a workholic.. and that he works every weekends (doing renovations two hours away) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 Lizzie, what if he isn't single?? Are you really into this guy? No.. I'm not REALLY into him.. but methink it could develop in something more... but I'm being cautious with this guy.. I just don't trust him.. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Lizzie, are you serious or are you mocking? If your accounting is factual, of course he's married. Why is that a problem for you? Have you had a change of heart? I think cheating and lying are two different issues, even if they often merge. The guy lied to Lizzie... basically tried to take advantage of her (assuming he didn't consider the possibility that lizzie might not mind if he is married). That is offensive, not respectful and quite upsetting. Lizzie, will you update us? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 Lizzie, are you serious or are you mocking? If your accounting is factual, of course he's married. Why is that a problem for you? Have you had a change of heart? No no.. Grogs.. I'm very serious.. I also think he has someone.. but he swore MANY times that he doesn't.. he said a few times.. 'I'm looking into your eyes and I'm swearing on my son's head that I have no one, except you'... Why is that a problem? It's not really a problem if he's married... at least I want to know so I won't get involved emotionally... The thing is I don't want him to lie to me... all my other MMs are straight forward and do not lie to me.. they don't need to. I HATE LIARS!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 I think cheating and lying are two different issues, even if they often merge. The guy lied to Lizzie... basically tried to take advantage of her (assuming he didn't consider the possibility that lizzie might not mind if he is married). That is offensive, not respectful and quite upsetting. Lizzie, will you update us? Yes.. I will... He will regret it very much if he lied to me.. I left early yesterday morning to visit my daugther... I just came back actually.. I went by where he lives.. and coudln't find the street NUMBER... I told him the story about the married guy who lied to me for 6 months.. about being married.. and his wife and I set him up to be caught... Link to post Share on other sites
EYECANDY000 Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 I feel so sorry for his son's head.. because lizzie, this guy is commited else where.. I've had a guy who was like that. He never slept over, or when he did to prove a point he still left early in the morning.. -I never knew where he stayed at and he always came to visit me. -he always cut his phone off at night. And then once day he called me to prove that he can havcan have a conversation at night, and got caught! I heard everything in the backround. The girl called me back and we spoke. So, my point is, if you feel like he is only letting you in his life to know the jist of things, and you don't know hardly anything personal about him then something is going on. My suggestion is to not get so attached to this guy, and don't play a crazy P.I woman. Because that's just going to get you more rattled and agitated. Like they say everything in the dark, will come to light!..... sorry girlie... Link to post Share on other sites
aloneanddepressed Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Wow, this sounds very similar to this guy I knew about 4 years ago. He was really weird come to think of it. He would only call me at work and use his cell phone. Never called from house phone. Also, when we were intimate, he would not stay over. Of course, the relationship was brief, and he told me "its not going to work". HA..at least he told me , unlike my last immature BF. I think the guy must have been in relationship or married. He was just plain odd. Yes.. that's the thing.. he has an explanation for everything... He said he turns his cell phone off after work because he doesn't want to be bothered for work.. he said he has no home phone.. just his cell.. he said he would leave it on if I want him to.. Then the reason for not sleeping over is ... that he can't sleep well when he's not in his 'things'... plus everytime he says he has no clothes to change.. Soooo weird.. the only time he told me he would sleep over (at the beginning) when the night came.. he 'broke off' with me saying he couldn't give me enough time.. because he's a workholic.. and that he works every weekends (doing renovations two hours away) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 I feel so sorry for his son's head.. because lizzie, this guy is commited else where.. I feel sorry for his head also... I would NEVER NEVER swear on my childen's head.. this is 'sacred' for me.. I think he's a jerk.. and I will soon find out.. and he will PAY for this.. Don't worry I will not go near his place again.. I just had this urge to check the street address.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 My MM of 6 months that got caught by his wife.. was such a liar .. it was unbelievable the lies he would come up with to go back home.. Like one night.. he said he was sleeping over... at around 2 in the morning.. he jumped on his cell (vibrate mode;)) then simulate a conversation (said his brother was caught in the middle of nowhere, his car had broken).. He even took me to his house for a weekend.. the lies he came up with.. they are quite 'imaginative".. Link to post Share on other sites
society Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 I agree, something does not add up here with this guy. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions either. Things will all be revealed soon enough. Let it play out. Link to post Share on other sites
CLC2008 Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 I'd assume if someone is married and having an affair, that they are lying to their spouse. So, what's the difference? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 I'd assume if someone is married and having an affair, that they are lying to their spouse. So, what's the difference? I know.. but in my case, I don't want a liar.. I don't really care if he lies to someone else.. just NOT TO ME... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 Does anyone else has good clues on how to catch him.. or I should just tell him to F*off.. (too bad.. cause the sex is one of the best I've ever had).. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Here is an idea, why don't you have him call you? You get his number and if he doesn't call you, well you get your answers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 Here is an idea, why don't you have him call you? You get his number and if he doesn't call you, well you get your answers. He calls me ..but only during the day... even if I ask him to call me.. he will.. I have no doubts.. but he can call me from outside the house.. or even when she's out.. That wouldn't prove anything.. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 A good start might be asking to see his driving licence. Just in case you got a fake name along with the bogus address. I am sure he might show you his house while his child is at school. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 I have made up my mind.. I will NOT have sex again with him until I know more ... so he will have to make a decision.. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Something is odd with this guy.. We have amazing sex.. but he won't sleep over.. his cell phone is off after work... I have never seen him on weekends.. he told me his address but the no. doesn't exist.. (unless I heard the wrong number)... exactly what other clues to you need L60? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Share Posted July 11, 2009 A good start might be asking to see his driving licence. Just in case you got a fake name along with the bogus address. I am sure he might show you his house while his child is at school. Excellent idea... I will ask him on Monday.. Link to post Share on other sites
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