athomasxx Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I'm planning on proposing on the 19th, at the local beach... There's a spot where I kind of feel relaxed, like nothing bad is happening, or ever could happen. It's also the spot where I looked her in the eye and knew that she was the one, the one I'd spend my whole life with. Alternatively, there's a place near her house in the woods (She's the outdoorsy type, was a park/rec major in college) this place is "her place" where she came to think, relax, etc. Not sure which place to ask... Or how, really. I already know the whole bit I'm going to say, but I need to make it special.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Well does she like the beach or the woods better? On another note, do you have somewhere that you BOTH feel is special? It will be an amazing proposal if you do it in a place that holds some value to you both. As far as a proposal, how about just doing it the old fashioned way? My fiance did a fairly simple one, told me he loved me, got down on one knee, and asked me to marry him. But again, go with what she would probably like.
Thaddeus Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 At the risk of throwing a fly into the ointment here... Have you discussed a pre-nup? As one who was financially destroyed by a divorce, there is no way on this earth that I'd even THINK about marriage again without a pre-nup. A pre-nup does two things: It financially protects both of you in the case of the collapse of a marriage It gives you a very clear indication of whether your chosen partner is interested in you as a human being, or you as a wallet/purse. Yes, it's about as un-romantic as you can imagine. And yes, in this day and age, it's absolutely necessary.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 At the risk of throwing a fly into the ointment here... Have you discussed a pre-nup? As one who was financially destroyed by a divorce, there is no way on this earth that I'd even THINK about marriage again without a pre-nup. A pre-nup does two things: It financially protects both of you in the case of the collapse of a marriageIt gives you a very clear indication of whether your chosen partner is interested in you as a human being, or you as a wallet/purse.Yes, it's about as un-romantic as you can imagine. And yes, in this day and age, it's absolutely necessary. Okay, this has nothing to do with the OP's topic. What a way to depress him when he's going to propose??! And it's not neccessary to everyone. My fiance aren't going to sign a prenup..a lot of people don't. That's topic for a totally different thread.
Thaddeus Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Okay, this has nothing to do with the OP's topic. What a way to depress him when he's going to propose??! It might seem out-of-place, but given the reality that about 50% of marriages end in divorce, it's only common sense to protect one's self. I was just suggesting that before one "pops the question," regardless of where it's done, a pre-nup discussion really really needs to take place.
SuicideBlonde Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Well, I say the beach. What's more romantic than the sound of the ocean, the gentle evening breeze, and the stars, twinkling in the sky like diamonds? Good luck with whatever you decide. The very fact that you are so concerned about making it special for her shows that you're a good man.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 It might seem out-of-place, but given the reality that about 50% of marriages end in divorce, it's only common sense to protect one's self. I was just suggesting that before one "pops the question," regardless of where it's done, a pre-nup discussion really really needs to take place. Well, I think the OP is concentrating on proposing, not a prenup. That's another thread completely. Just sayin...
zoe1983 Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 i think you should go with the place you feel more comfortable. That way you will be more relaxed and able to tell her all the wonderful things im sure you prepared. When my fiance proposed he was so nervous he didn't say all the sweet stuff till after i said yes lol Of course it helped that he had candles everywhere, music playing, and rose petals spelled out to say Will you Marry me? Really i doubt she will even notice the where....be more concerned with what you say and what you do!
Author athomasxx Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 Well our first date was going to the beach for three days, so maybe that's a good place to do it. No idea how to do this though, aside from saying what I have to say and asking...
jjreed Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 I'm planning on proposing on the 19th, at the local beach... There's a spot where I kind of feel relaxed, like nothing bad is happening, or ever could happen. It's also the spot where I looked her in the eye and knew that she was the one, the one I'd spend my whole life with. Alternatively, there's a place near her house in the woods (She's the outdoorsy type, was a park/rec major in college) this place is "her place" where she came to think, relax, etc. Not sure which place to ask... Or how, really. I already know the whole bit I'm going to say, but I need to make it special. Take her to "her place" and ask her. It's 20% how you do and 80% doing it.
Author athomasxx Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 Take her to "her place" and ask her. It's 20% how you do and 80% doing it. I disagree with that. A woman wants to remember that day for her whole life. Still listening to ideas...
Lauriebell82 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Well our first date was going to the beach for three days, so maybe that's a good place to do it. No idea how to do this though, aside from saying what I have to say and asking... That sounds good to me. You don't have to do something super creative, I myself loved my classic proposal. (getting down on one knee and asking).
Thornton Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Personally I would want a thoughtful and original proposal, rather than just being asked. My friend's husband proposed to her over the tannoy in front of several thousand people while being airlifted from the sea in a rescue demonstration... he yelled it out over the mic while dangling on a rope under a helicopter a few hundred feet above the waves. Then the helicopter dropped him on the beach and he knelt down and produced a ring. She was on the tv news and their photo was in the newspapers and everything. Another girl I know was proposed to by treasure hunt. Her man gave her a key and a clue... he had devised a series of cunning clues that she had to solve, travelling to different locations and looking up stuff at the library and on the internet. It took her weeks, and when she found the final clue it was inside a luggage locker at the train station, together with a beautiful dress and instructions to call him. When she called he directed her to wear the dress and meet him at a restaurant, then he arranged for the restaurant to seat her and he walked in with a flower and got down on one knee. My ex-fiance was lying in bed with me one night and he said "So, will you marry me?" and I said "Yeah, ok". I was terribly disappointed, though I didn't tell him. He clearly either didn't know me very well or simply didn't care about what I wanted. Knowing what your fiancee would like counts for a lot... nobody here can tell you that.
BlackWhite Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 How to pop the question. You got to pop it like it's hot, pop it like it's hot. Preferrably with some rap music in the background.
Author athomasxx Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 You got to pop it like it's hot, pop it like it's hot. Preferrably with some rap music in the background. Wow, or not.
BlackWhite Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Wow, or not. Just ask her to be your ho and you're willing to be her pimp for life.
Author athomasxx Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 Just ask her to be your ho and you're willing to be her pimp for life. Please don't reply if your only intent is to act immature and derail the thread.
BlackWhite Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Please don't reply if your only intent is to act immature and derail the thread. With you uptightness and your lack of sense of humor, you know, this potential marriage might not last.
Author athomasxx Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 With you uptightness and your lack of sense of humor, you know, this potential marriage might not last. Your immature attitude shows me you'll never be married, or you're some little kid here to cause trouble. I'm done talking to you, you're reported. Thanks for derailing the thread, good job.
BlackWhite Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I'm done talking to you, you'rereported. Right back at ya. Thanks for derailing the thread, good job. You're welcome.
Author athomasxx Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 Mods, just close this. I'm done. Right back at ya. You're welcome. Bet you feel big and bad behind that computer screen don't you.
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