paddington bear Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Ok so you know the way as soon as you've met a guy you like and are all happy and thinking of him, suddenly lots of other men approach you, as if they can smell that someone out there is attracted to you and want a piece of that pie? I get why, you usually are glowing and feeling sexy and desirable and give off that energy, there's nothing mysterious to it. But, I think the same has just happened, but in a stranger way. I've finally been letting go of the last threads of hope in a stupid unrequited situation. And not to sound to hippy-dippy about it...but it's like the energy around me has changed and bounced out into the atmosphere and signalled to anyone in the side-lines that I'm mentally available again. In the space of one day, one guy who I disregarded in the past asked me out, wants to go see a movie with me etc. was giving me the gooey-eyes at the end of the night. And another guy (another unrequited from the past) emailed late week using sudden flirting words and yesterday I get a letter from him with a very personalised gift enclosed, which he's never done before and he's planning to come see me. Men can obviously smell, even from thousands of miles away that you're not still hooked on someone else. It just seems strange, after months of nothing, NOTHING that there's a sudden change coinciding with me thinking 'well, this guy I've been in love with is a lost cause, move on'... Anyone else had the same thing? If so, any theories...or am I trying to make something mysterious out of mere co-incidence?
mammax3 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Sometimes I agree with your hippy dippy theory about energy. Othertimes I think it's the phenomena that happens when you've bought a new car. Suddenly you notice that there are a dozen people in your small town with the exact same colour/model chevy as you have! Everywhere you look, there's your new car! Wow! Who knew! I think it's something like that too for people in your life. You weren't ready to date or to be available, so you didn't attune to any clues that people were sending. Maybe (and I'm just hypothesizing here) your thousands-of-miles-away friend wrote you a letter a few weeks ago telling you to expect a sweet present that was coming in from another continent so it'd take a little longer to get here... But because you were still holding out for buddy, it didn't register. Maybe. Just another thought tossed into the idea pool.
Jilly Bean Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 It's not that people can smell availability on someone. It's that they can smell the stink of desperation.
Author paddington bear Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 It's not that people can smell availability on someone. It's that they can smell the stink of desperation. ha ha! Yes well, I've definitely smelled desperate and funnily enough members of the opposite sex run a mile from that particular stink. I'm not a female version of Pepe Le Peu right now, so I don't think that's what's going on
Isolde Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I think it's confidence, open-mindedness, and a certain peace of mind that attract people, no matter what your R status.
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