Author kizik Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 Well, I absolutely love the range of opinions on this little scenario, and it makes me think that perhaps I DIDN'T screw up royally. In any case, when you got nothing, you got nothing to lose... that was my thought before calling her last night. The only way to go on this one is UP.
Star Gazer Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I think you made a misstep contacting her on a Friday night, for any reason. In doing so, yu basically told her that you don't have anything to do on a date night/going out night and bored. If she's as busy and social as she paints herself to be, she's not going to find a bump on a log, home alone on a Friday night very interesting. KWIM? Keep up the mystery next time. And CALL her. That said, she has had two opportunities to accept the ball into her court, and she hasn't really recepted. Like Lucky, I totally disagree with WYTY's comment that you allegedly messed up by not asking her out for the weekend.
Author kizik Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 I think you made a misstep contacting her on a Friday night, for any reason. In doing so, yu basically told her that you don't have anything to do on a date night/going out night and bored. If she's as busy and social as she paints herself to be, she's not going to find a bump on a log, home alone on a Friday night very interesting. KWIM? Keep up the mystery next time. Fair enough. Sure, maybe I came off as a loser to her, Friday night texting and all that. And I did call her after she texted back. It's possible she thinks I'm a nerd or a creep, but I guess I just don't care. I know who I am and if she wants to jump aboard then that's awesome. That said, she has had two opportunities to accept the ball into her court, and she hasn't really accepted. Yep. I just feel like if she was into me, all of this Friday night stuff wouldn't make much of a difference. She'd be like, "Sure!" IDK. I suppose I'm always supposed to be playing mysterious games, but I guess I really just don't care. If that translates to failure in the dating world (and you'll all say that it does), then shoot. I probably don't think enough about how I come across b/c I'm pretty secure in who I am, and someone can take me or leave me.
WhyYesThankYou Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I think you made a misstep contacting her on a Friday night, for any reason. ..... Like Lucky, I totally disagree with WYTY's comment that you allegedly messed up by not asking her out for the weekend. Just to jump in here and clarify - I did not mean he should have called her on Friday to ask her out for Friday night. I know that's not what he did. And if he HAD done that - which he wouldn't have - she should not have accepted. What I was saying was that calling her on a Friday night to ask about something casual for the following week seemed like a bit of a put-down. "I'm too busy to see you this weekend, but I've got some free time Mon/Tues I'd like to fill up." I agree that contact on Friday night, whether for the weekend or any time in the future, is bad form for the reasons stated in previous posts. And perhaps instead of going on and on about all the things I didn't mean, I should say what I think is preferable - which is asking someone out during "normal hours" - say 9am-8pm - for some point in the future - at least a couple of days away. If we want to get specific, Tues-Thurs is preferable for asking, whether for the weekend or for the following week. Monday seems like you had a crap weekend and are looking for something new. Friday looks like you're desperate to sort out something for the weekend. I may have made this more muddled in trying to clarify. But I certainly did not mean he should have asked her out on Friday night for this weekend. (And I didn't realise he'd called her at 10pm, which is another demerit point.)
motive2002 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 What do they say.. its a numbers game? There's so many chicks out there no use in getting hung up over just one for any length of time. A huge percentage of them are attention whores that are stupid, superficial and phonies. Don't forget the gold diggers, basket cases, drug users, sluts with daddy issues etc. Keep cruisin with your direction facing somewhere other than chicks. They are just a distraction.
Author kizik Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 A huge percentage of them are attention whores that are stupid, superficial and phonies. Don't forget the gold diggers, basket cases, drug users, sluts with daddy issues etc. Keep cruisin with your direction facing somewhere other than chicks. They are just a distraction. Your location says "Modern misogynist". Why? You're a good dude - what's up with the angry route? Anyway, you're right about one thing, and that's to focus less on the girls. I got a couple shows coming up, so who knows, maybe I'll meet some chicks then. In any case, thanks for the response.
Lucky_One Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 A huge percentage of them are attention whores that are stupid, superficial and phonies. Don't forget the gold diggers, basket cases, drug users, sluts with daddy issues etc. Keep cruisin with your direction facing somewhere other than chicks. They are just a distraction. WOOOHOOOO that's me! You got my number!! (I am guessing that you don't have a GF, huh?)
Author kizik Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 Update: she called me a minute ago. We're going out Sunday. Soooo.... if they like ya, they like ya, and screw the games.
Chicago_Guy Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 She's not interested. If she was interested, she would have answered the phone or returned your calls promptly. Don't waste any more effort on this girl.
Chicago_Guy Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I guess I should have read the entire thread first - maybe she is interested now? It seems odd, because not answering the phone or returning calls is usually a sign of disinterest.
Author kizik Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 Haha! Who knows, man. She called me back and we're going out. She didn't have to do that, and wouldn't have if she wasn't a bit "curious" about me.
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