tokiman69 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I just recently started dating this girl who dumped a good friend of mine to be with me. I knew a lot about their relationship because i hung around with the two a lot. My friend was a lazy, over weight, mess of a guy. I never understood why she was with him. They were constantly fighting and it bothered me a lot to see them together because i wanted to be with her. She was never in love with him, but she had sex very frequently with him. I was a virgin before dating her and it bothers me a lot to think of her having sex almost nightly with a guy who treated her so badly. I'm very sexually conservative so this has really really been bothering me. This kid is pretty lousy and she was really lowering herself to be with him. This has been a big problem for me. What can i do?
boogieboy Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 You can stop being a jealous possessive scrub, and appreciate a girl that is dealing with teaching you the ropes. You are having sex with her now, you won,,,for now. theres no reason whatsoever for you to be thinking about him. Whats wrong with you??? if you were SO sexually conservative you wouldnt have lusted after her in the first place. Better not take her for granted before she leaves you for someone like she left that guy for you. If she even SMELLS jealousy on you, she will bail. WAtch your back!
LostLamb Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 The hypocrisy! Sexually conservative but your best friend was dumped for you? Not a very moral act on your part. A person's past is just that , their past. Maybe your real problem is that you are jealous of your friend.
Jersey Shortie Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 You should realize that women don't want to be treated like crap but sometimes we do get treated like crap. Looks like she figured it out that your "friend" wasn't a good guy and actually did leave him. What is your problem?
Author tokiman69 Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 I know that how i feel is wrong. It shouldn't be much of my business what she did before me. I'm not an obsessive freak about her and we have a great relationship. I love her to death but the thought of her having so much sex with this kid really bothers me. This kid is a pretty big loser and i wasn't that good of a friend to him, he lived on the same hall as me in my dorm so i knew him well. She never loved this guy and it bothers me to think that she would still have had such a sexual relationship with someone who she didn't really love. Their relationship was a mess and all they seemed to do was fight and screw. I know it's wrong to think like this and thats why I'm looking for help with this. I love her so much and i think she is a great person, I just can't seem to get rid of this feeling.
Els Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 For cases this extreme I'd recommend electroconvulsive shock therapy.
Lucky_One Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 So, really what you are worried about is that she is just screwing you and really doesn't care about you, either, despite what she may say. Because you know that if she was doing that with him just last month, then she could really be doing with you, too.
LDR Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I was in a situation like your gf. I had a bf who didnt treat me well, and we did have sex. I didnt love him and I left him. I wanted to leave him for a long time, but it was tough as you get attached to the other person. She is with you now. Most people have a past (ex-bf, previous marriages). If you worry about it that much, then you will have to try and find someone who never had a bf!
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