CD111 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 In general I have decided to let guys pursue me more during the initial first/second date period. However I have a current dilemma I am unsure about. About two weeks ago I made a date a guy I am interested in. He was on an extended business trip and didn't get back home till yesterday. We made plans to go for a bike ride on Sunday. Not very romantic and glamorous, but I think it will be fun. He asked me if I would like to go for a ride with him and since he has been gone I have received a short text or call every few days. It still seems like he is interested. After we made the date I found out it's his birthday on Saturday. Birthdays usually equal a hangover . Personally, the last place I would want to be is riding up/down some mountain with a screaming headache. So should I call to confirm the date is still set or do I just let it be. If he forgets then his loss. Thank you
Bayern Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I really don't know what the best advice is. Maybe you should confirm simply to save yourself some time. Good luck.
Author CD111 Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 Well that was the other thing. Sure I want meet this guy, but I don't want to blow my Sunday morning waiting for him to call. I'd rather know so I can make other plans. Also I won't be all butt hurt because I was stood up again. haha
D-Lish Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 No way! He's in contact every few days, you're responding, it's promising. He hasn't forgotten about it... If he fails to say anything about it and then misses Sunday without a word to you, then you have an idea about what kind of guy he is. Give him the chase- let him pursue, stop over thinking it;). DON'T mention it- wait for him. BTW, He knew it was the day after his B-day when he made the date- we don't forget out own b-days!!!
Author CD111 Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 So I am pretty excited this guy actually came through. On Friday night my roommate and I were sitting on our back deck drinking a few beers and talking. My prospective date called me to see what I was doing and asked if we could go out to lunch the next day (Saturday). He also asked if he could come over. I said sure and that we were just hanging out at the house. So he shows up. Prior to this I hadn't met him yet. I was impressed by the fact that he was very sociable, funny, my guy roommate didn't have a bad word to say about him, polite, and I was definitely attracted to him. All three of us ended up playing cards and drinking beer into the wee hours of the morning. He left at around 5 am. I walked him out to his truck. There, during a break in the conversation he lean in and kissed me. It wasn't a timid peck. It was a full on passionate kiss and soooo romantic. With the dawn breaking, the birds singing as virtually everything else was still and quite. I couldn't resist kissing him back. It was one of those kisses that after it ended someone could have knocked me over with a feather, haha . After he left my roommate and I decided to stay up to watch the sunrise and then I spent the rest of the day at a yard sale. Saturday, was a blur with a GREAT start. So in retrospect... I was pretty much stressing for no reason and I learned once again that is doesn't matter how much I over think things because in the dating realm it will never change the outcome. What will be will be. D-Lish, thanks for your advice. I didn't call him at all and haven't yet, but he did call today. I think I am getting the hang of this.
kizik Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 There, during a break in the conversation he lean in and kissed me. It wasn't a timid peck. It was a full on passionate kiss and soooo romantic. With the dawn breaking, the birds singing as virtually everything else was still and quite. I couldn't resist kissing him back. It was one of those kisses that after it ended someone could have knocked me over with a feather, haha . This is all very exciting! I am very happy for you. Oh, young love... :love:
sugarmomma Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 He sounds dreamy!!!! I am happy for you. It really does pay off to let him do the pursuing. You are doing good so just keep it up. Continue to let him be a man. I am sooooo happy for you. He sounds like a great guy and he likes YOU!
saira Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 wow you sound confident and in control. No you dont call. I repeat YOU DO NOT CALL.. If he like you he will call.... You carry on life by being your busy self. If he drinks and jeopadises your date then its up to you to determine what is whats not acceptable. Clearly ur in control of you love life and if he doesnt call to cancel (thats if he has a hangover) or doesnt call to reschedule u need to make up ur mind at what stage he has lost his chance with you. If he does turn up to the date and sober and all energetic.. please dont smile too much.. Obviously he could be keen on you and didnt go wild because he was aware of his important date with you... a thumbs up! keep us updated.
saira Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I shoulda read ur updated before my initial reply - clearly wanted to answer you ASAP.. Glad alls good with your 'guy'
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