13arkansas Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 I think it is a bit silly to talk about presenting yourself like the 'good girl' that you are. You're just you...you like to party, you like romantic things, you like to study....stop trying to feel like you're a certain typed of girl and just enjoy!
2sure Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 You havent screwed anything up by being too aggressive. You are in fact, in a nearly perfect position. Think of it this way: A guy loves to know for sure that a woman adores him. Its a nice feeling for him to get that ego boost and think he is all that to someone. The downside is, he doesnt have to chase and may take your interest for granted. But now: Pull back. Way back. Having had a taste of being all that to you...he will do anything he can to get that attention back. Chase on.
gopher Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 You havent screwed anything up by being too aggressive. You are in fact, in a nearly perfect position. Think of it this way: A guy loves to know for sure that a woman adores him. Its a nice feeling for him to get that ego boost and think he is all that to someone. The downside is, he doesnt have to chase and may take your interest for granted. But now: Pull back. Way back. Having had a taste of being all that to you...he will do anything he can to get that attention back. Chase on. Totally agree with that TBF, we guys eat that up with a spoon!!!...That way you know where you stand with her.
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 I think it is a bit silly to talk about presenting yourself like the 'good girl' that you are. You're just you...you like to party, you like romantic things, you like to study....stop trying to feel like you're a certain typed of girl and just enjoy! Well, the partying side of me came out only very recently....It's not me to party almost everyday. I like it, but I think my drinking has to be curtailed. It is not really classy to be drunk every time I meet him. But yes you are right. I need to be myself, so that I don't have to behave in a certain way whenever I'm with him. OMG I LOVE HIM!:love:
Chicago_Guy Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Well i have a lot of boys pursuing me but they are boring. This one makes me wanna chain him to me. LOL! I am bored I guess, nothing better to do. He is a challenge to me. I want him so baaaad! How old are you? You comment makes you seem very immature - that's why you may have been played by the guy at issue and will almost certainly be played by other guys in the future.
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 You havent screwed anything up by being too aggressive. You are in fact, in a nearly perfect position. Think of it this way: A guy loves to know for sure that a woman adores him. Its a nice feeling for him to get that ego boost and think he is all that to someone. The downside is, he doesnt have to chase and may take your interest for granted. But now: Pull back. Way back. Having had a taste of being all that to you...he will do anything he can to get that attention back. Chase on. I love you! You give me hope lol! Yes I am pulling back - I have to, because I need to fix my issues and become the best version of me. I might have more chance of getting him that way. I am actually going to be very patient and if it takes an entire year to make him see me as a potential girlfriend, I will take the time. He inspires me to be better in whatever I do. I have this urge to write, sing, play guitar, do all the things I used to do. I want to make him proud of me. I want to raise my grades up. Wow. This is amazing.
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 How old are you? You comment makes you seem very immature - that's why you may have been played by the guy at issue and will almost certainly be played by other guys in the future. I am old lol! I'm 27, but very immature. I did try to date people who I have felt no spark with. With Danny, it was 10 dates. I tried hard to make it work, but there's just nothing there. With Adonis, it was 5 dates. I cannot continue leading men on, so after 2-3 dates and there's still no fireworks, they are friend-zoned. When I met this guy we were on fire!!! How can I give up on this guy? He is just amazing.
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh: Ahahahaah I know I am laughing at myself lol. LOVESICK IDIOT. Falling in love is my kind of natural high. I love it.
kizik Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 I'm 27, but very immature. OK, now I think I love you...
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 OK, now I think I love you... Wow, I'm surrounded by luuuurve! It feels good. (love you too kizik) I'm in love with life. What the hell is going on with me lol! Acting stupid.
kizik Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 You're just in love, chica. Enjoy it, roll with it, and have fun. Live in the moment, b/c the future is unknown.
Cora Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 I'm glad you are so happy fabulous chk! Enjoy and have a blast!!!
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 I'm glad you are so happy fabulous chk! Enjoy and have a blast!!! aaww thanks Cora! (although I'm in love by myself right now, it still feels good!)
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 It's been three days. No texts from either side. I'm quite content and cool with this, I am not rushing for a relationship. :cool:He is in New Orleans and probably flirting and having fun. I'm cool with that also. Well, I hope he's not having too much fun. Last night one of my flings (Danny) was texting me, asking me to go out, and I flirted back, but told him I am interested in somebody else. His ego could not quite take it lol. I am quite confident that when my love:love: gets back here in NJ he will text me. We have spoken of hanging out without alcohol in our system. I can wait a year for this guy, if that's what it takes. I'm still trying to improve myself, fix my issues, and hopefully by next year we are on even ground. I love him.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Had I not read your post in regards to you being 27 and immature, I would imagine what I am writing now would be more harsh and skeptical towards your behaviour. The only reason most people wouldn't condone any of your wishful thinking is because the world hardly if ever revolves around our emotions, if that were so, everyone would end up in a mental hospital. Aside from that, I say it's okay to delve into that love sick phase of wanting and yearning. The only thing anyone's ever really worried about is jumping in the well too deeply and finding your heart crushed in the end. Am I being pessimistic? No, but I also know that emotions that revolve around infatuation is fleeting, as evidenced by life itself and numerous posts on LS.
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 I say it's okay to delve into that love sick phase of wanting and yearning. The only thing anyone's ever really worried about is jumping in the well too deeply and finding your heart crushed in the end. Am I being pessimistic? No, but I also know that emotions that revolve around infatuation is fleeting, as evidenced by life itself and numerous posts on LS. I quite accept the fact that I am deliberately encouraging these feelings of love for him despite the odds of a relationship coming to fruition. He is the best rebound I've ever had. He's the only one who managed to eliminate my longing for my ex. My ex pales in comparison to this guy. I cannot thank him enough for that. Coming from that perspective I will willingly throw myself at him. I do not care if at the moment he has girls surrounding him. I am not ready for a relationship anyway. I'm working on my issues, my school, my career. For now admiring him from afar, hanging out with him every week, knowing him little by little is enough for me. By next year when I have fully healed and have graduated from school and accomplished my goals, I can face him and have the confidence to actively pursue this relationship, if there's a chance. For now he is my muse, my inspiration, my love.
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 Ah. This ends this silly story. He stood me up tonight. I'm moving on. Pissed as f*uck. But I'm going to NYC tomorrow for more man-meat.
2sunny Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 stood you up? geez, what a loser... don't bother with him.
boogieboy Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 Ah. This ends this silly story. He stood me up tonight. I'm moving on. Pissed as f*uck. But I'm going to NYC tomorrow for more man-meat. Told ya so... Thats aight, at least he started your muse again, and you didnt crash afterwards. I just went through the same thing. Someone pulled me out of a rut, it didnt work out, but Im much better than I was before. Im in NYC, hit me up!
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 25, 2009 Author Posted July 25, 2009 Oddly enough, I still want him. LOL! I'm going to disappear. Then reappear next year. He's still my muse. Boogieboy I believe I'm going to be at Imperial(?) in the next 2 hours. If you're around the area hit me up.
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 26, 2009 Author Posted July 26, 2009 And......we're back in the game!!!! He apologized yesterday for his no call/no show behavior. I was not pissed anymore since I always have plan B when when plan A doesn't work out. I ended up having sooo much fun with friends. Got hit on by many unsuitable suitors (they have gfs) and it was the validation I needed that I'm an attractive girl. Here's our convo thru text (be aware that mentally I'm still a teen-ager, I hang out with people younger than me). But he is the same. Our conversation is not that deep. him: you are so blunt! me: well yes. him: why? me: because that's how I am? I waste no time. him: :/ me: Aw lol I'm backing off him: don't! me: Too cute. And drunk, I suspect. him: lol no! me: Well, I shall not say another word about how much I like you. Deal? him: I like you. I will tell you everyday. me: I won't mind that for sure. ********************** AHAHHAHAHH I am enjoying this. A lot. A whole lot. :love::love:
bac Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 relax and go with flow if you can. he probably will continue to contact you and have fun with you, if you show that you are fine. if you put pressure on him, he may go away. google 'oneitis' and it provides good advice.
Author fabulous_chk Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 relax and go with flow if you can. he probably will continue to contact you and have fun with you, if you show that you are fine. if you put pressure on him, he may go away. google 'oneitis' and it provides good advice. I will see how this goes. I'm not ready for a relationship so I'm not rushing things. It just happens that sex happens whenever him and I get together. But no pressure now.
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