Ronni_W Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 @Ronni: So if a guy isn't intimidated by a beautiful woman, he's automatically bitter? Where is the logic in that? I would posit that he's secure and decidedly not bitter. Hey kiz. I'm not sure how you put that together but, no, it isn't what I was saying. (The 'bitter men' had nothing to do with the 'beautiful women'.)
13arkansas Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I have a friend who always attracts handsome, successful men but I think it's because she is very beautiful and they want some arm candy - so a bit of a player magnet sometimes too unfortunately - and she runs into problems because she is the smartest person I have ever met and I think when they find this out they get very uncomfortable. She even makes an effort to keep quiet a lot and not outsmart anyone as it is hard for some guys, especially as often I think they assume she is not so clever because of how she appears. I admit, big challenge for a man to have a girl who is like this. She's like my sister so good for her, though, I cannot feel sorry for her for these problems, haha
Author littlewhiterose Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 I'm not a guy... but as a female I get very intimidated by extremely attractive guys. I get tongue tied. Very shy. I fumble for words. This reminds me of this one time, years ago, I was backing out of a parking space and I spotted this reaaally good looking guy. He was so good looking, I accidentally popped the clutch on my five-speed and stalled the engine. All while he was watching me drool at him...We all had a good laugh (hot guy included). Even the people that were riding with me......good times! I felt like such a dork!
Quickill Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Now someone may take this as trying to sound macho or trying to be the Super Guy but it's not, it's just my life. I have been charged by a grizzly, wasn't scared. Excited and focused, the report of my .44 mag startled me more than the bear. I have been lost in the wilds of Alaska never once panicked. I have I have hung my 79 Bronco over a fifty foot drop with only half of my driver side tires on wet rock. Never once thought of falling off. Women on the other hand, scare the crap out of me. I don't know why, I just get around them (Hotness not a factor) and I don't know what to say, how to say it, I just clam up or make lame jokes that annoy everyone around me. My friends say "Your an interesting guy. Why don't you tell them hunting stories, off roading adventures, etc.." and all I can say is "I don't know. It just doesn't seem that women would think that stuff's interesting." and as such, people who don't know me well think I'm just some introverted loner. When I am extremely outgoing; just not when women are around. So I think it just depends on the person.
kizik Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 It's great to finally have it all figured out isn't it. Yeah, it's pretty sweet.
carhill Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 A beautiful woman, as someone on this site once said (carhill?), still sits on the toilet the same as everyone else. Yes, that is one of my carhillism's, cultivated by myself many years ago, originally to get over my fear of public speaking, and later to get over being intimidated by universally attractive women. What it does is get my sensitivity past the superficial and allows me to get to know the person rather than just admire (or be afraid of) the shell. Now, as an older guy, I can casually banter with women of all ages and barely acknowledge (to myself) their objective beauty. It's noted, but not weighted, except perhaps with a little internal 'good on 'em' smile.
monkey00 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 When I was younger women I were attracted to would make me break a sweat, just the thought of talking to them. And women that were average or above would pretty much do the same. I think the more someone embraces their social side with both sexes regularly, you start building a tolerance for this kind of thing. Though it's probably right to think that most men are afraid/intimidated by attractive women - however beauty is in the eye of the beholder...so that in itself is subjective.
EddieN Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 A beautiful woman, as someone on this site once said (carhill?), still sits on the toilet the same as everyone else. Not true. Men poop out ugly brown ****. Beautiful women poop strawberry ice cream.
eiithan Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Sometimes I look upon Hornblower as an inspiration. In his mind he thought he was completely inadequate. Almost all of his thoughts seem to be that he was hoping his men hadn't seen his latest mistakes, or noticed that he wasn't as physically strong as them. Yet despite his own negative thoughts, he was loved by his crews for making strong, correct decisions and being a supportive Captain. Unfortunatly, he never picked up on the love they had for him, and still continued to beat himself up over things he thought were wrong with him, but actually weren't. As another naval historical fiction fan I cannot let this one pass...Horatio Hornblower is such a character, really. I am glad he did not follow the path of Richard Sharpe however...as a boyfriend material, Sharpe just blows. Perhaps this is why Jack Aubrey appears to be rather balanced, haha. Back to the subject topic, not sure about these stunning, beautiful women but I have noticed that in their 20s and early 30s, some men do feel intimidated by outspoken, politically opinionated women who have a certain preference of socio-political agenda/belief/conviction. And, no, those women are not unattractive either. It seems to me that those women suffer from double standards (they are catches with good education and careers, but at the same time they are too much for many young men who prefer easy-going, fun-loving women over serious, complicated women). I am not saying that they make a right match though. Just more obstacles in meeting the right man.
IcemanJB Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 It's not the fear of actually talking to them, it's the fear of failure. Now I don't do much approaching of women myself (but am frequently surrounded by attractive women), but if I start to get nervous I usually think to myself "I've jumped out of a plane at 11k feet before. I've been separated and lost deep in the north woods while snowmobiling at night with temperatures around -10F, 30 miles from the nearest town and no cell phone reception. I made it out just fine." Talking to a pretty girl after that seems pretty insignificant. Not saying there still isn't nervousness, but it's the type that sort of puts me at my best. I've kind of learned to feed off of it. Now the type(s) of girls I'm attracted to largely contrasts with what the majority of males drool over. I'll be perfectly fine and comfortable around the "blond bombshell" (or whatever the hell you want to call her), but if there's a cute, kind of dorky/awkward dark haired girl in the room, that will probably get my heart rate going. That's just life. I think it comes down to being able to accept possible (and likely) failure. This is not to say have a negative outlook, but it is to say be able to deal with it, learn from it, and move on. I wish I could say I'm perfectly able to deal with failure. Getting better though...
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