thatgirl222 Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 I am unsure if I want to become more involved with this guy... We have tons in common, we can easily talk to each other, there's definitely a connection. The chemistry is amazing. He calls and stays in contact all the time. Last night he called me before going out, then after. He calls me sweetie or honey. It's a long distance thing, but I want to move closer. Well I knew I did up until the last few days. He hasn't talked to me as much. He always used to answer when I called, or called back within an hour or so. He seems a little more distant now. He rarely answers his phone the last few days. He doesn't call back for a looong time. He says he's napping because or working out and what not, but I'm not so sure.. You see a while ago, there was talk about me moving closer by. Then he just kind of went mia for a while. A week later he brought up me moving closer again. I asked what the deal was before, and he admitted he was kind of thinking of getting back with his ex, but then he realized it was really over and didn't want to be with her. He said he thought about me every day. I told him I did not want to go through this type of thing again, as I was very hurt that he just ignored me. He promised not to, and deleted her numbers and off his social networking site. And everything was going well up until now. Like a few nights ago he said he'd give me a call, but then later he 'fell asleep'. Then the next morning he 'forgot his phone' when he went out to lunch with a friend... I'm not sure if I'm just being insecure because of what happened before, or if I should be alarmed. Any thoughts?
mammax3 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 it's not your insecurity. You should be alarmed. Emotional availability is important to you and he's not meeting that need. He's indicating that you're not high in his books. Tread lightly and maintain your barrier...
CD111 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I agree, this doesn't sound good to me. Especially since there is an ex in the picture, which he is still thinking about. It seems to me like he is comfortable with the kind of relationship you two have right now and doesn't want to make any additional commitments. Also with you at a distance he still has the ability to try to patch things up with his ex.
boogieboy Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Yeah its obvious that he is still confused about how he feels with his ex. Dont involve yourself with him, you will be a rebound. What he did wrong is establish that he is able to contact you constantly, then after a while he didnt, which gave away his intentions. I think he really liked you, but his ex is probably messing with him. You can take a chance, but it seems like he will give you a roller coaster ride if you proceed with him.
LostLamb Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Don't entrust your heart to this man , he is mixed up and I don't believe he forgot his phone twice in two days.
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