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ok well my girlfriend of 2 and a half years though we should take a break. I been reading and im scard that she wants to leave me i have no idea what to think or what to do. we agreed not to see other people on the break but i dont no what to do. her best frend was telling me she is confused and just needs time. do breaks help?:(

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In my opinion, no, breaks do not work. If you can't solve a problem when you're together, how can you ever solve it when you're apart? If someone asks me for a break, I usually tell them to either dump me or work it out, because I'm not prepared to hang around waiting.

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Sorry, my friend, but "break" can be best defined as, "I like you but want to let you down easy while I go get attention from somebody else."

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ok well my girlfriend of 2 and a half years though we should take a break. I been reading and im scard that she wants to leave me i have no idea what to think or what to do. we agreed not to see other people on the break but i dont no what to do. her best frend was telling me she is confused and just needs time. do breaks help?:(

 

Whether or not the break will work really depends. Clearly she hasn't told you WHY you are taking a break. Her friend saying that she just needs time could mean many things. It could be simple or complex. There is no way of knowing unless she told you what was going on. The fact that she didn't disclose to you the reason for the break worries me because it makes me think that she is about to high tail it out of your relationship. Normally people who are trying to think through something would want to talk about it, and she doesn't. Atleast not with you.

 

My boyfriend and I took a couple breaks over our 4 year relationship to figure out things..and we are still together going on 5 years in October. But the reason we worked out is because WE both wanted to.

 

I think you need to talk to her about the break. Don't tell her you are worried about her leaving etc just ask her if she will tell you why she wants the break. If she refuses to do so. I would say cut your losses and move on.

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Cut contact with her right now....while she is "confused". Dont answer any texts unless she says "I want to talk" or "I want to try again"

 

A break is a cowardly way of saying she is breaking up with you.

 

Dont keep talking to her, because if you do, it relieves her guilt, meaning you are saying its ok for her to break up with you in the cowardly fashion.

 

If you are hurt, then you have to hurt her back by not answering any calls texts or emails. She will miss you the most at this time especially since the break is fresh and her emotions are high.

 

She might keep sending leaving you messages like "why are you ignoring me?" or "You are rude for ignoring me"

 

This is what she deserves for not trying to work it out WITH you.

 

Breaking all contact will be hard, but you need this for the long run, whether she comes back or not.

 

Break contact for 3 weeks, or unless she says she doesnt want a break anymore, whichever comes first.

 

Do a search for "take a break" on this board and you will see why I say all this.

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