BHOLD Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 he is casually dating someone else. He says he misses me alot and we had good chemistry most of the time. Wants to start hanging out again, but I can not get past the relationship he has developed with someone else (casual or not). He has made no mention of of ending it with her, so I told him to f*ck off. We will have been broken up 4 months at the end of this month, so yeah I guess he moved on. Now he wants me to re-enter his life, and I can not accept him down playing screwing someone else by saying he's "casually" dating. Am I over reacting? Is it unreasonable for me to expect him to make a choice? Is it ever OK to casually date (aka screw multiple people at the same time)? Keep in mind, I have maintained nc the whole time. As hard as it was, never once did I contact him. Now he's begging to spend time with me, but refers to her as the "other", implying she's still a consideration.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 HELL NO. Don't give this guy another chance, my God. If you accept it, then it shows him just exactly what he can get away with. Don't accept this filthy behavior.
bluewolf17 Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 Well, think of it this is. If you broke up with someone, then realized months later that you really wanted a second chance, would you still continue dating the "other" even though you know it upsets your ex (the one you say you want to try again with). The answer is probably No! If he is crazy about you, misses you, wants another chance, why is he dating someone else and wanting to continue seeing them? You and I both know the answer to that. He isn't 100% sure about you or the relationship. He wants his options. Meaning, YOU are the option. That's not fair to you at all. I would tell him to let you know when he has made up his mind.
Author BHOLD Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 He almost has me thinking he is sincere because he said things he never said before. I'm not sure if the other girl thing is something he's just saying so he doesn't appear to be a whimp. Of course he has said he loves me (followed by believe it or not), but he has also said that he thinks about me a lot, and I am haunting him. May not seem like much, but for him to utter these words, it's big. He has also said that I am angry (no sh*t sherlock), and I have been vicisious towards him, but he understands and still wishes I would change my mind about hanging out with him again. Again this is big because I ripped him a new a-hole and he's still trying opposed to walking away. All seems heartfelt, but then there's "her". What about "her"? To this he replies he's torn. So we are back to square one - "f*ck off" Insight anyone. Does it seem he is sincere, or is he playing me by keeping his options open?
Author BHOLD Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 Bumping for additional points of view. Thank you.
MrFun Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 so I told him to f*ck off. Rock on! The rest of this posting is irrelevant
sugarmomma Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Don't fall for his sweet words. They are just .....words. *******s will say anything to get you back. If you fall for it he will have even less respect for you than he does now. Actions speak louder than words and he is TORN. Torn between another woman's bodu and wanting yours. Kick his ass to the curb!!!
gavinus Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 Don't do it!!!! If you accept him back he will have won!! Be strong! If he was sincere it is actions that count, words are only noises in the air
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