brock9911 Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 im not gonna lie, my drinking has gotten a little out of control since my ex broke things off. yesterday was prob the first time i didnt drink since last tuesday. now im an insomniac. i cant sleep for $h!t. i have sleeping medication but it always makes me feel like crap the next morning. and i honestly dont remember anything i dream about when i take it. as for the drinking, i pass right out when i hit the pillow at night. now last night, i took nyquil which i havent done in a while, but i used to live on it. lets just say i had some vivid dreams last night. it was like me and my ex were back together and things were great like nothing ever happened. now i dont know about the rest of you, but when im more coherant at night and im not loaded with boo's or medication, my dreams feel for real. especial if you take nyquil, thats a dream enhancer. i guess this was to get the funk off my chest. this morning has sucked so far because of the dream, but hey its friday, a whole weekend to look foward to.
dxb Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 I know what you mean about the dreams - they do feel pretty real in the morning, don't they! Try and stay off the booze for a bit, or at least stop drinking in the context of 'getting over it'. I think there's studies that actually demonstrate that if you drink when you are feeling negative, when you drink at other times, it'll resurrect the memories of the bad time when you were drinking. Simply put, drinking's fun and it's also an essential part of social lubrication. Don't mess your head up to the point that every time you look at a bottle, you think of your ex.
Author brock9911 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 true, and it doesnt help having a bunch of friends who still have a college mentality and like to drink and smoke EVERY day. but as for the remembering when you drunk part, from a little movie called Beerfest, this so called phenomenon is called drunken recall.
Giha Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 I had a dream about her last night, too. I had a dream that I saved her life or something weird like that. I felt horrible but now I feel better, but not so great either
stablesong Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 The dreams are especially tough because, as my sub-conscious seems to remember her a lot more vividly than my day-to-day memory, I always wake up with a searing, fresh image of her face on my mind. Damn.
Taucher Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 God yeah. The dreams. Last night I dreamt I was drowning in a river and my ex's mum was on the riverbank. She told me she couldnt do anything to rescue me because my ex told her not to. Thanks, subconcious mind.
Giha Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 God yeah. The dreams. Last night I dreamt I was drowning in a river and my ex's mum was on the riverbank. She told me she couldnt do anything to rescue me because my ex told her not to. Thanks, subconcious mind. Wow, that's just a horrible dream to have
Author brock9911 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 that does sound like a pretty $h!tty dream. damn thats rough. but i hate that your subconscience, well at least mine, puts these thoughts and images in your head like things are ok and everything is back to normal. the mind is a hell of a weapon, that in my case can usually backfire on me
Giha Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 that does sound like a pretty $h!tty dream. damn thats rough. but i hate that your subconscience, well at least mine, puts these thoughts and images in your head like things are ok and everything is back to normal. the mind is a hell of a weapon, that in my case can usually backfire on me It sucks. I wrote this somewhere, but I had a dream in which I was with a friend at the movies and all of a sudden she appeared with this ******* and they started ****ing in front of me like rabbits, and the whole time she was looking at me and laughing while she screams with joy. Thats was the most ****ed up dream I ever EVER had. I wanted to shoot myself in the morning and almost threw up
Road To Joy Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 I felt horrible but now I feel better, but not so great either This used to always happen to me. I would have these clear dreams of us being happy together again. And it f*cked with my head! Honestly, these were the only times I truly missed her and wanted her back. I felt like sh*t in the morning but as the day went on, it all faded until I couldn't even remember the dream anymore. I think you're on this path, since it seems they're not affecting your whole day. they started ****ing in front of me like rabbitsLMAO :lmao: I've never heard that one before! Like rabbits
Giha Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 This used to always happen to me. I would have these clear dreams of us being happy together again. And it f*cked with my head! Honestly, these were the only times I truly missed her and wanted her back. I felt like sh*t in the morning but as the day went on, it all faded until I couldn't even remember the dream anymore. I think you're on this path, since it seems they're not affecting your whole day. LMAO :lmao: I've never heard that one before! Like rabbits Yeah I think im on this path, though I miss her even when I have no dreams..but that's obvious. And yeah, there's just no other way to describe that awful dream (I should have said bunnies, though)
fabulous_chk Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 I took nyquil to get through the night last night. Not for the ex but for the most recent fling I have. I have been an idiot. I have rebounded on this one pretty badly and was pursuing him aggressively. No dreams though thank God! Whenever I dream of my ex during my NC it meant he was gonna contact me. Right now we are in contact and he's pretty much my source of comfort whenever a romance doesn't end well. We depend on each other for that I guess. It's unhealthy but I hope things will revert to normal. Keep dating brock. What else can we do but keep going forward until we meet the right person?
Author brock9911 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 yeah, its something about nyquil that does that to me. i have a similar problem though with pursuing a girl. i can be a complete idiot when i get attention cuz iv been out of the game for so long. i mean i get to the point where i dont know if im contacting the girl too much or not enough. my heads been so messed up from my ex that i dont know if im scaring them away cuz im over anxious or not showing enough attention. its weird, and hopefully will pass with time. one thing i do know though is i dont have a problem initiating the conversation, its after that that i get stumped.
fabulous_chk Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 Yeah me too! I pretty much laid everything down on the table, like how much I like him and I can't get him off my mind, wanna kiss him everywhere, stuff like that. LOL! He's still contacting me and still wants to see me. So that's a good thing. I need to take flirting lessons 101. Being blunt doesn't seem to work.
Author brock9911 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 Haha, you say he wants to contacts you and stuff, he broke up with you? thats what my ex is doing, she broke up with me but wont stop contacting me. i just refuse to answer because i'll never get back to the basics if i dont wipe out what was and look foward to what can be. even if i suck at it right now, hopefully it will all come back. like riding a bike, only no wheels, just heart break
fabulous_chk Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 No brock, the new guy lol! I'm very much into him. I am aggressively pursuing him. Aaaargh! The ex is hinting of a future together but I'm not buying it. All talk and no action.
Author brock9911 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 oh my fault. please forgive me haha. well thats good. especially that he can keep your mind off the ex. the ex contacting is just his way of keeping tabs on you and trying to make it hard for you to enjoy yourself i had a similar situation, but shes now in europe for 2 1/2 months which sux. and than shes back to tennessee which sux also. but oh well i always find myself spitting into the wind.
jlr Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I've been having this problem lately too. I've had dreams the last three nights about her. It's like, geezus, I can't even escape thinking of her when I'm asleep?!
LakesideDream Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Over the tears, eight plus of them I have often dreamed of my ex. The dreams that I remember were all slightly unpleasant, somewhat unsettling. I suppose my subconscience didn't allow happy or endings that were to sad. I don't look forward to those dreams. Neither do I fear them. The relationship had run its course. Time. Again it's time that causes us to heal. I'm becoming convinced that time is the only constant in relationships. Both combined and not.
fabulous_chk Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 oh my fault. please forgive me haha. well thats good. especially that he can keep your mind off the ex. the ex contacting is just his way of keeping tabs on you and trying to make it hard for you to enjoy yourself i had a similar situation, but shes now in europe for 2 1/2 months which sux. and than shes back to tennessee which sux also. but oh well i always find myself spitting into the wind. lol whenever I have boy problems I run to my ex and whine. What my ex and i had was the easiest relationship in the world. No fighting no doubts. He just happened to fall in love with somebody else and did not tell me for three months lol! We are still in contact - he depends on me for certain things. I'm his only friend, even his family is mad at him for the stupid things he did. I don't mind taking care of him. I'm a substitute mom I guess. But eventually I will not contact him anymore if he causes trouble between me and the guy I wanna be with.
MrGeorge Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 thanks for letting me ramble about my split up. I'd rather deal with a scenario like she or i fell in love with someone, or we can nolonger stand each other, but this johoviahs witness stuff, we all i can is go luck with that. heck i wouldnt mind trying venturing out and exploring the mental psyche and increase my knowledge but too many can'ts or won't associated with some of those religious groups. just not for me, my god at the moment is george carlin. :The JC i like to know of is the one who rebelled against those romeranos and died for us to be free and not have to listen to all those bible thumpers bore me to death with there own personal spins on how jesus sees it. preach about moses once in a while, i think he deserves some mention too. lol,
evaG Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Yea. I just had a dream about going somewhere with my ex as just friends after our breakup. He kept on checking his phone to text someone and got really annoyed when I wanted to see who it was. I tried to do the cute peeking over thing, and he turned away offensively. When he looked up, he was this ugly person that resembles my ex. Hahahaha.
t0ri Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I just had a dream my ex wanted to get back together and we were kissing and stuff but told me he had slept with this one chick he was totally into. They always feel so real so I wake up and my day feels ruined.
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