Nedved Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Exactly. Oh, and I see we were in the same relationship. Ha.[/QUOT You had one of them to so? I can't believe i was nice to her down the years .
Nedved Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Yep, my feelings exactly. I'm not sitting around being bitter polotting revenge or anything. I'm out living my life but I will always despise and never ever forgive my ex, NEVER. How she cheated on me and left me in like 10k debt, destroyed my life for a period of time, NEVER. sounds like a very similar situation to mine. My ex left me about 8k in debt. Dose'nt care either. I'm not plotting revenge but i know the little snake is gonna make contact at some stage when her new guy leaves her or she needs somebody to talk to and thats when i'm gonna take extreme pleasure in telling her where to go.
Giha Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I don't know if I'm right to be upset, angry or whatever with her.. We started dating 2 weeks after she broke up with her ex, so it's also my fault for not paying enough attention to that. I don't think she took me as a rebound, although I ended up one. I'm really sad to think about how much I love her and how little I mean to her now, but I don't know who to blame. She is now dating my friend, which makes me really upset with him and never wanna see his ugly idiotic face again. Why can't I feel the same about her as well? I mean, she is as much to blame as he is...but I still can't feel as angry at her as I am angry at him. I mean, after all, you can't really choose who you love... Am I just blinded by love? Is there even a reason for me to be upset with her? I really can't see clearly since she broke my heart. All I feel for her is love and nothing less
Nedved Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 There's a huge reason why you should be upset with her. Hooking up with your friend is a unacceptable and a lot more of your anger should be directed towards her also. You've been betrayed by both of them and i really feel sorry for you to have to go through something like that. Yous still have feelings for her and thats understandable as your still recovering from the heartbreak but in time you'l see you were better off without her. Any person that treats you like that and dose'nt deserve you in their life. They both ought to be ashamed of themselves. You'l be okay and d'ont be so hard on youself. Its gonna take time to heal. we're all in the same boat and we just have to take every day as its comes.
Giha Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 There's a huge reason why you should be upset with her. Hooking up with your friend is a unacceptable and a lot more of your anger should be directed towards her also. You've been betrayed by both of them and i really feel sorry for you to have to go through something like that. Yous still have feelings for her and thats understandable as your still recovering from the heartbreak but in time you'l see you were better off without her. Any person that treats you like that and dose'nt deserve you in their life. They both ought to be ashamed of themselves. You'l be okay and d'ont be so hard on youself. Its gonna take time to heal. we're all in the same boat and we just have to take every day as its comes. Thank you, I really needed someone else's perspective on this. I guess in time I will see things as they really are. Thanks again, greatly appreciated
Nedved Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 Thats no problem. Just hang in there. Your in severe pain right now and after what you've been through who would'nt be but you'l come out of this stronger. Just stick to NC right now and get the pain out of your system.
PinkToes Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 So those of you who have chosen not to forgive someone (not to suggest you should or shouldn't, just asking), have you been able to forgive yourselves for putting up with the crap you went through? Sometimes I wonder whether anger toward someone who hurt us is just easier than taking responsibility for letting it happen.
kizik Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 have you been able to forgive yourselves for putting up with the crap you went through? YES. I was a total pussy, I was passive, I allowed myself to be emotionally abused, and I will never be that way again. I forgive myself, but not her.
Woggle Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 I have used what I went through as a learning experience. Every man in life who dates women eventually ends up being betrayed at least once so I am glad I had it at a young age and it made me a smarter man. If you ask me it was a blessing in disguise and karma caught up with her without me having to do a thing.
Author EmperorR Posted July 12, 2009 Author Posted July 12, 2009 So those of you who have chosen not to forgive someone (not to suggest you should or shouldn't, just asking), have you been able to forgive yourselves for putting up with the crap you went through? Sometimes I wonder whether anger toward someone who hurt us is just easier than taking responsibility for letting it happen. Yep it was my first serious relationship, I should have gone wiwth my gut and left earlier like 3 months in when I dumped her and she cut herself but I was young and dumb and naive. I know better now, I forgave myself longtime ago, as for forgiving soemone who put me 10k in the hole, spat on my name mocked my family, stole precious things from me NOPE.
NopeNah Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 as for forgiving soemone who put me 10k in the hole, spat on my name mocked my family, stole precious things from me NOPE. Yea.. I can relate to that! Mine was 12k..expensive lesson indeed!
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