SBG04 Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 The back-story: She broke up with me about a year ago. Engaged, and went out for over five years. We have been living separately for almost two months, very very little contact (about three text messages purely dealing with the practical issues of moving out within the first fortnight). She has a new boyfriend, which she has been dating for 9 months or so, and are still dating. What's happened: I got an envelope in the mail today from her. An envelope. Nothing inside. Addressed to me by hand. It was posted from her office as the business return address was stamped on the back. Wtf? Is she playing games? As far as I know she is still happy with this new looser (god knows why but thats another story) as her FB photo is of the two of them. She is no longer my friend btw, just seen the photo through mutual friends. So why is she sending me an envelope out of the blue? And do I ask her? Ideas people! I need ideas and help!
adamt Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 Just ignore it, ignore her and get on with your life. If you don't you will look back in 10 years time and regret putting your life on hold for her. She is with someone else so don't get involved in any games.
dxb Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 Games. Also, one other thing. she is still happy with this new looser (god knows why but thats another story) Keep up the NC - you're still too vulnerable at the moment, and I don't blame you, if you were together 5 years. Look at it this way, if she was seriously looking for some sort of reconciliation, she wouldn't send an empty envelope, she'd phone you or email you or do something that would result in confirmed contact. I do have one question though. She broke up with me about a year ago We have been living separately for almost two months She has a new boyfriend, which she has been dating for 9 months or so Unless i've misread this or you've mistyped this, these figures REALLY don't add up. Are you saying that you broke up a year ago, but you carried on living with her for another 10 months, and within 3 months of the break-up she was seeing someone else? Meaning you've had this overlap of living WITH her while she's had a new boyfriend for a period of 7 months? Mate SERIOUSLY, what are you doing to yourself?
Author SBG04 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 Look at it this way, if she was seriously looking for some sort of reconciliation, she wouldn't send an empty envelope, she'd phone you or email you or do something that would result in confirmed contact. My mind did not go to a reconciliation. Which does surprise me. I just couldn't understand what she was getting at. It was either going to be to torment me or maybe get some form of contact I assumed, but not a reconciliation. It just stumped me. I do have one question though. Unless i've misread this or you've mistyped this, these figures REALLY don't add up. Are you saying that you broke up a year ago, but you carried on living with her for another 10 months, and within 3 months of the break-up she was seeing someone else? Meaning you've had this overlap of living WITH her while she's had a new boyfriend for a period of 7 months? Mate SERIOUSLY, what are you doing to yourself? Yes. Your math is correct. We originally ended on as good terms as you could. It looked like we were going to continue to be really close friends. She did not have a job at the time and I did not have enough money to get a place of my own straight away so we needed each other. Things of course started to get messy when this f-wit came on the scene. Dating other people was one of our few rules we both made while living under the same roof. Incidentally, she made this rule as she did not think she could bare to see me with someone else. Anyway, this period really took a toll on me. Destroyed me. But if she is playing these games, It's looking like she did not come out of it unscathed.
Thaddeus Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 Just ignore it, ignore her and get on with your life. If you don't you will look back in 10 years time and regret putting your life on hold for her. She is with someone else so don't get involved in any games. Quoted for truth. The empty envelope is either a mistake - she meant to enclose a letter but mailed an empty envelope instead - or some sort of mind game. I'm inclined to think the latter, but I can't know for sure. Throw the envelope away. You're done with her, she's done with you, time for both of you to move on.
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