It's been 5 months but i cant stop thinking about him????

[darkimmortal777]

hey guys, this is my first post here.. i just want to share something because lately i dont know where to turn to. so if u dont mind id love to share with u all wat im feeling right now.

 

first off im 18 years old..hi im angela nice to meet u all..k well anyways....i was dating my ex for 2 years. i know that its hard to say that a teenager can experience wat true love is, but for me it sure felt that way. basically we started off as the best of friends....i dont have that many close good friends so his friendship was very valuable to me. we'd talk about everything and anything and we had the same views on pretty much everything; we got along so great......he used to live here in new york but moved to texas..so i was willing to wait for him......

 

he broke up with me cuz well..he was long distant..the relationship for the majority was long distant but i was willing to wait for him because i wuld soon see him in the summer of 09.

 

anyways we broke up because inorder for him to go to college here in new york *him being in texas* he had to take more classes for more credits to graduate earlier to be with me...as he was doing so, this meant less time talking..and being long distant..well u neeed to keep the relationship steady which means ALOT of communication.

 

i'd be like "babe i know ur working really hard but i havent heard from u in days...and even if i do itd be for 20 minutes..wats going on"...cuz even if we were long distant before...wed still talk for a good amount of time...

 

then he started saying things on how i made him feel like **** and like a bad bf and how i changed......so he broke up with me 2 days after valentines day.....

 

i mean we did argue about alot and...i guess i made him feel guilty in him not talking to me but all i wanted was for some of his attention cuz if hes long distant, id still want to be close to him............we just fell apart.

 

im still to this day heartbroken and still tel him i love him, but it seems like he's forgotten me all together...

 

what are ur opinions on this?? ugh anyones help wuld be appreciated cuz idk wat to do anymore...

 

even if i shuld move on and experience new things i always think of danny and how i was so happy with him..its like he cant escape my mind when i think of love...

 

even if ur comments are positive or negative, i dont really care, itd be nice to know wat other people thought about this.

 

im sorry this was long but im desperate for some feeback.....it seems like keeping it inside made it worse

 

thanks guys, much love to all!!!!

[shunter]

I think he found someone else and you became a distraction. Maybe you were a better person, but the other was closer.

 

You need to move on .. how could you possibly be interested in someone who wont take 20 minutes of their time to talk to you? forget 20 minutes, how about two minutes?

 

and by your admission you argued a lot!

 

if that profile pic is you, then move on, you are way too good looking to cling to a loser like that. this one is easy and if anyone suggests otherwise, put them on ignore

[Exit]

I disagree with shunter, there are plenty of things straining this relationship, there's no need to jump to the conclusion that another love interest was involved.

 

He probably did his best to pay attention to you while being overwhelmed with school work. Maybe you simply asked him to pay a little more attention to you, but from his perspective, maybe he was feeling nagged and pressured.

 

You're only 18 and there will be other people. Long distance is hard enough for grown adults, but at your age, people are still going through so many changes and realizing what they want in life, being hundreds of miles apart just makes it that much harder.

 

Is he still returning to NY this summer? Maybe things could be worked out then. Sounds like the distance and the stress is what broke you guys apart. Maybe once some of that is over with there will be an opportunity to reconsider things.

 

5 months is not that long to still be thinking about somebody. But you should do everything you can to help yourself heal, go out with friends, take up new activities, and see if you can meet anyone new as you go about your life.

[darkimmortal777]

thank you for ur advice really helped me. actually funny story lol, few hours after this was posted he imed me and we started to resolve things. well hes been dating someone 2 months after the breakup so he obviously moved on..and now i realize i shuld do the same..even if im still heartbroken after 5 months, its best i move on, no matter how hard i hope ill cope lol. thank u so much <3 i realize things happen for a reason and wat doesnt kill us makes us stronger right.....so hopefully this coping will pass faster than i expect

 

god bless all,much love

 

~angela~ <3:bunny: