aloneanddepressed Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 As of yesterday, I found out my relationship with my boyfriend is over. I found out from an acquaintance that he thought he initiated the breakup when he completely ignored me after an argument I can't stop thinking about the situation. I think what if I had done something differently. I know it wasn't all my fault though. I don't understand how he could have not had enough respect to even say "im sorry, i just can't do it anymore", or something to that effect after eight months! I had some things I wanted to tell him, and he wouldn't even give me a chance! I feel like he maybe didn't appreciate me after all. He said he loved me with all his heart and wanted me in life. This was just a few weeks ago. The worst part is according to sources, he may have been trying to hookup with this girl while we were definitely still dating. I hope this is not true. I do know he has already gone out on a few dates with this girl. I'm so surprised, he would even think of another girl that soon, after the feelings he claimed to have for me. I didn't just think of him as a BF, but as a good friend. Someone I could talk about anything with. We had a really special connection I thought. That is what hurts the most. I wonder now if he would ever speak to me again or not again for the rest of his life. I would think he would have wanted to at least remain friends if possible. I can't believe I would try to contact him over and over, and he can't even say a word to me. It makes me feel like I'm not worth anything to him.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Such a shame when people get drug through the mud like this. I don't know his side of the story, but it's still safe to say you don't deserve this. That's just ridiculous and selfish for someone to do what he has done. What a shame. He should feel like such a terrible person.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 well, i do have regrets about handling the situation. he was being really inconsiderate, but i think i got too upset at him. regardless, there is no excuse to completely ignore someone, when you see they are trying to contact you. also, i found out something else. he apparently has this thing where he can't be alone at all. i guess this is why he jumps right into another relationship. i think a lot of people are like this, but its a bit strange if you ask me. i wonder if its an emotional thing for him/loneliness or he is just after the sexual aspect of the relationship, and wants to find another girl as quick as he can
Thomas X Forever Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Whats his relationship with his parents? And what are his parents relationship with each other?
LisaUk Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Hi, I'm sorry you have been treated this way, you are obviously a lot more mature than him! No one should be treated like this, because you had an argument is no excuse for his disrespecting you. You deserve much better.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 Whats his relationship with his parents? And what are his parents relationship with each other? well that is actually a complicated story. lets see. his father has already passed away so I can't really say anything about him. I'm not entirely sure about his relationship with his mother, but it seems like he gets along with her pretty good, and they have a somewhat close relationship. however, when he was young, he was raised by grandparents. i don't think he saw his mother much then, because she worked all the time. also, his father was the abusive type and left them....yeah not good at all.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 Hi, I'm sorry you have been treated this way, you are obviously a lot more mature than him! No one should be treated like this, because you had an argument is no excuse for his disrespecting you. You deserve much better. thanks for your reply..well, somehow i still feel guilty about the situation...not entirely ,but i do.... i think that is what he was trying to accomplish though by ending it like this and not giving me the time of day. he actually is pretty immature and not very responsible either.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Well, it sounds like the reason he jumps from relationship to relationship is possible because the lack of relationship he had with his mom growing up. Possible case of dependent personality disorder. This probably doesn't come as any consolation, but at least you can put a name to the face.
LisaUk Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 thanks for your reply..well, somehow i still feel guilty about the situation...not entirely ,but i do.... i think that is what he was trying to accomplish though by ending it like this and not giving me the time of day. he actually is pretty immature and not very responsible either. Don't beat yourself up sweetie, he is the one who needs to learn that people have feelings and that there is a right and wrong way to end a relationship. Is he quite young?
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