lizzylizliz Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Hey, some of you might have seen me posting on other topics... In a nutshell...I met my ex 6 months ago..instant spark and chemistry, saw each other all the time, we had so much fun together, always spending time, partying, sleeping together...he was the ultimate good time guy, and I was his bad time girl. Then, couple of months ago, he decides that he needs space, ignores me pretty much for a week....says he doesnt know if he wants me anymore..has prev said he wants us to get a place and loves me, but now says he doesnt, and he isnt sure if he loves me...just before we get back together, he sees his ex, gets drunk iwth her and stays over...they have children together but I'm annoyed when I find out. Fast forward to now....he wasn't treating me the same as he was in the beginning, has foul mood swings and tells me hes doing whatever he wants, and if I odn't like it, its tough...so i dump him (messily), we make up, but he says he doesn't want to be together anymore. Somehow, myt brains totally forgotten about all the bad stuff, and is really cut up. To make matters worse, he was messaging me last week saying its hard on him, so difficult, he misses me every day etc etc...wants me to go to his birthday and says he'll miss me if I dont go (so i don't). He then says he thinks we shouldnt ocntact each other for a while as its 'not helping'; says that hes really hurting but its for the best. ???? He's the one that doesn't want ME back....he sat and told me for half an hour how he misses me everyday...but won't try and work it out 'in case it doesnt work'. He says he values my friendship, but barely texts me, even when i ask for my stuff back. It's been two weeks. I just don't get why hes being like this...he got what he wanted, so how comes he's still not happy?? He called me at one point in tears, sayiong he was confused and messed up...i tezted him about getting my stuff, and he replied 5 hours later. I miss his friendship, and I miss being in a relationship, but I'm not sure if I miss the two together, if that makes any sense? He sat and watched me cry my eyes out and beg him to sort it out (which i regret, as I'm usually quite a proud person). We're meant to be staying friends because we get on so well....but im beginning to think this could be the easy route for him...gets most of the benefits of a relationship but none of the stress? I'm just not sure what to do. I'm fed up of thinking about him, I'm still getting a bit upset and I'm so through with it. If anyones got any advice on how to get over someone more easily, or even if I should just leave him the hell alone for good...some days its just so hgard, we saw each other 5/6 days a week, thats how close we were. Part of me is glad its over, and thinks maybe its for the best. The other half screams that I don't want to carry on without him. Its a head ****! Please help me, lovely people. What would you do?
Author lizzylizliz Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 And, I stupidly contacted him last night talking about meeting up as friends....that seemed ok last night, but now I feel like I did when we split up...I haven't cried for a good 5/6 days now, and am almost on the brink now....just don't know what to do!!
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