nastyapple Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 So, last time I posted I let you all know that I'd recently broken up with my boyfriend. We'd been together a little over a year and had been close friends for 4 years prior to that. We were supposed to be going to a gig together not this friday but next, so I'd contacted him to know if he would still be going to the gig. I tried calling (I rang ONCE, got voicemail, and then didn't ring again). I text him just letting him know why I'd rang, and then when I signed onto MSN later on in the night, he was online and I asked him directly then. He said he would come if he was off work, and would find out the next day. The next day I heard nothing so I just left him to it. I thought to myself that if he was interested, he would contact me, and if not I'd find someone else to accompany me. The day after that he rang me, and said he was off work and would come. I suggested bringing someone else and he seemed keen to come. He then called again later in the day and asked if I wanted to do something. I said I'd see him next week, and I'd call him back. I called him back later that night and he was all 'it doesn't matter'. I just said okay and said goodbye. He called yesterday morning, to see how I was. I said I was fine, and when he mentioned going to parties etc, I encouraged him. I was 'breezy' throughout the whole call whereas he seemed a little miserable. He then text me again, later on in the evening, asking how I was. I said I was fine and asked how he was and he chatted on about work etc. I was polite but short with my messages back. He then said he was out of free texts and had no credit left so to take care of myself etc. I basically wished him the same. Then he text me off a family member's mobile, saying it would be nice to see me sometime. I replied, but again with short messages and said I'd meet if he wanted. He then text me off his best friend's mobile trying to arrange a time. I said I'd text later because I was going out. He then text me later on in the night (like 12pm) from a family member's phone again, telling me to 'please take care!!' and saying goodnight. His messages all included plenty of x's. I don't want to read too far into this, but do you think he is still interested? I mean I would love to be back with him, but I want to make him really sweat for it. He's the kind of person who is unorganised and never has any credit on his mobile, so it was sort of a compliment he'd used all his free texts on me. He even made the effort to borrow the phones of 2 other people... when we were in a relationship he didn't even try that hard to get back to me. I know what he is like, and he is making an effort. I don't know whether it's just to be friends or something more though. I mean if he wanted to be friends and check how I was... he'd already done that earlier in the day?... I'm meeting him on Sunday. I'm going to wait for him to call me and arrange a time. I'm not doing the rallying round after him ever again. Ha.
qerp32 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I haven't read your initial post, but I guess that is irrelevant... going into this much effort just to be friends, check up, or play games with you certainly seems odd to me, no matter what the situation is. It does sound like he wants you back... I think his miserable vs your 'breezy', 'thats cool' attitude with the partying is pretty good proof of this. I bet he was dying inside when he heard your reaction to it!
Author nastyapple Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 The next day (yesterday), he rang me again in the morning to see how I was (again). He said he was just wondering. He mentioned being in debt to someone, and I said that he shouldn't spend what he doesn't have and he'll be alright. I said I'd lend it if he was desperate and he said it was his own mess and he has to deal with the consequences. He got extremelly touchy for some reason, and started being rather snappy. He then text me later in the evening, asking if he could take me up on the offer of the money. I drove down and dropped it off for him, and he was waiting outside. He was with 2 friends, who spoke to me before he did. He tried hugging me, but it was a really weak hug - I didn't really hug back. I just gave him it, said bye and walked back to the car. His facebook status then said he felt like s***. I don't know if he's feeling bad now.
kyle1234 Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 it seems like he is using you...asking you for money ect..calling you to see how your doing just ot play nice so he can get stuff out of you...i doubt he feels bad... dont buy into it
Author nastyapple Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 I felt like a pushover when I drove down with the money, but I didn't want him getting into trouble. I guess I care too much. Keeping my guard up though. He text me the next day with another 'thank you so much' type message, and I just didn't bother replying. I'm seeing him on Sunday, he's meeting me outside work so I really don't know what to expect.
kyle1234 Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 done feel like a push over hun...youve dont nothing wong..and please be care caereful
Author nastyapple Posted July 11, 2009 Author Posted July 11, 2009 Thanks for the concern Kyle1234. I'll let you know how it goes and I'll watch my back.
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