evaG Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 ....I feel like it's a whole new betrayal. I realize that we're over but god, he promised me not to hook up with anyone for a month for my sanity sake for a month after our breakup 5 days ago. I should just label this as another reason why he's such a piece of sht. He has zero respect for me. I hate him. I hate him. I hate him. How do you guys deal with this type of crap.
Soul Bear Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Resistance is futile, acceptance is bliss. when you can truly grasp that concept, you will be on the road to true contentment.
dxb Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Answer: by ensuring that you're in the position where you don't know what your ex is up to. Ignorance is bliss.
broken_promises Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Well said, dxb. I think I'm going to post that on my computer.
sedgwick Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 How do you guys deal with this type of crap. By ensuring that I don't know what he's doing. Someone once wrote on here, "Treat your ex like a serial-killing stalker." You have to put yourself in the witness protection program.
Giha Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 As said above, just make sure you have no way what-so-ever to know what he's up to. I didn't do that at first, causing me to find out that my "brand new ex" is ****ing someone who was a friend of mine since kindergarten. You just can't stretch enough how true is that saying "Ignorance is bliss". It's hard to do, but you really can't handle knowing what they're up to.
redy2 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 just imagine being in my shoes. having a girl who is pregnant that doesnt want to date you or supposedly anyone at the moment. but still living with you. not coming home or coming home real late. then trying to turn ever argument around on you.
JamesM Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I got stuck on the idea that he needed to make an agreement to not see anyone for a month. I am well aware of the hurt that it may cause you, but if he wants to move on then let him. He may find out that he wants someone else, or he may come to realize what he lost. Either way, when it is over, it is over.
Ronni_W Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 You're sure that he hooked-up, and didn't just get fall-down drunk and crash someplace? I agree with JamesM...and with those who say "ignorance is bliss" -- staying ignorant about your ex is perhaps your best 'healing tool', right now. Your ex made a really dumb promise and, when we hold people to those, it just ends up in self-disappointment, frustration, anger, us feeling like crap. Sorry that you're hurting...sending hugs.
musica87 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 he promised he wouldnt hook up with anyone else for a month? first of all thats a LIE, secondly, why would you even expect that of someone? not to sound harsh, but he broke up with you so he wouldnt have to be WITH you anymore, i doubt he planned on being celibate for any amount of time whatsoever. and even if he did keep his word, its not like after one month you'll be cured of how badly you're feeling. stay as far away from him as possible. dont go to any bars or places he or his friends go to, our your bound to run into him, and probably him with another girl. dont ask any mutual friends about him either. you just need to cut off all ties, otherwise you'll never allow yourself to heal if you keep pieces of him in your life.
Author evaG Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 You guys make good points. I asked that of him and he agreed because I thought he cared enough about me to let me have a month's worth peace of mind while I get over him. I'm going well on the healing process I think. I'm well aware of why we ended things, and I feel great during most of the day knowing even if he wanted me back, I wouldn't want him back.
asuman Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 HOW Do You Deal With Knowing Your Ex Never Went Home Last Night? The pertinent question is: WHY DO YOU KNOW Your Ex Never Went Home Last Night? Your "agreement" is nonsense. He needs to do what he needs to do to get over you, and the same applies to you.
Author evaG Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 I guess it's easier said than done. I need to figure out the root of my possessiveness.
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