audrey143 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 My boyfriend just came home from being in England for about 3 weeks. Before he left, we had one condom left and we were debating if he should keep it with him or leave it in his room. He lives with his parents and his brother plays video games in his room alot, and his mom cleaned it up a bit before he came home. We decided to just leave it in his room and we put it in his desk drawer. I came over today and he said he couldn't find the condom anywhere and that his mom or brother probably found it. We are completely in love and I never had any thoughts in my head that he would ever cheat until this happened. I mean someone may have found it, but its really weird because why would they just take it? I need advice! I want to confront him about it but I dont want him to think I dont trust him if it really just disapeared.
Lyssa Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 My boyfriend just came home from being in England for about 3 weeks. Before he left, we had one condom left and we were debating if he should keep it with him or leave it in his room. He lives with his parents and his brother plays video games in his room alot, and his mom cleaned it up a bit before he came home. We decided to just leave it in his room and we put it in his desk drawer. I came over today and he said he couldn't find the condom anywhere and that his mom or brother probably found it. We are completely in love and I never had any thoughts in my head that he would ever cheat until this happened. I mean someone may have found it, but its really weird because why would they just take it? I need advice! I want to confront him about it but I dont want him to think I dont trust him if it really just disapeared. How old is his brother?
Author audrey143 Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 his brother is at the curious age of like 15 or 16.
boldjack Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Audrey, At 15 or 16 I was doing every girl I could find. I'm guessing the bro took it. Or maybe Mom and Dad needed one.
Lyssa Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 his brother is at the curious age of like 15 or 16. Could be his brother. Why would you think your BF had something to do with the lost condom?
Author audrey143 Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 I dont know, for him to be gone so long, it just makes me wonder. Hes very attractive and charming and I would not be suprised if cute girls were flirting with him the whole time he was in England. He lived there a year ago and knows alot of people there. I always have trusted him and I know we are meant for eachother it just seems a little fishy.
Author audrey143 Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 see thats what i was getting at, i suppose. I really dont think he would but we have sex pretty often and he was gone for 3 weeks. I remember us putting it in his desk before we left for the airport though so im not sure.
Athena Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Maybe he took it to England with him? :lmao: ha ha Well Audrey, I just don't know how you jumped from a missing/lost/misplaced condom to him cheating NOW... I mean, if he had cheated in England where he had the opportunity to do so undected by you, that's one thing, but why NOW back at home? When he has you? Where the girl/s he may or may not have cheated with are NOT? (they would be over there in England, right?) So, I think you have two separate issues here... one is the Case of the Missing Condom. and the other is: Was your b/f faithful to you while abroad? You need to ask yourself if he has given you any reasons whatsoever, that he may have wanted to cheat, that he may be the type who is up for it, and that he actually did? There's nothing wrong with asking him if he remained faithful to you while away for 'so long', however don't bring in phony 'proof' of the missing condom to back you up! It just doesn't wash! Tell him you have been feeling a little insecure about his being away from you for weeks and wanted to ask him if he thought of sleeping with any girls while over there? See, the emphasis here is on how YOU are feeling, not on What He Did! And certainly do not use the condom in that conversation, lol...
jasminetea Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 If he was going to cheat, he'd buy more condoms (we even have them here in England ) as he knows you know where his last one is and would get suspicious if it suddenly disappeared. If your gut is telling you he cheated, then you need to explore that, but don't think the missing condom is evidence of it.
Lucky_One Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I bet his mom tossed it. I can't believe that you are now thinking that he cheated on you because he was away from you for a bare minimum of 3 weeks?
Lyssa Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Some guys can actually wait 3 weeks to have sex. I think it's his brother. He could very well be curious or took it to make water balloon cause he couldn't find any balloons.
littlekitty Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 If he was going to cheat, he'd buy more condoms (we even have them here in England ) as he knows you know where his last one is and would get suspicious if it suddenly disappeared. If your gut is telling you he cheated, then you need to explore that, but don't think the missing condom is evidence of it. Exactly what I was thinking. If he wanted to cheat in the UK, he'd have just bought condoms over here. Or perhaps the girl would have some! And if there was anything going on, why would he have mentioned the condom was missing. If he was doing anything suspicious he'd have probably just replaced it. He's mentioned it because he's wondering who in his house has moved it/got it.
hitzpink Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Really, who would take a single condom with them to another country just in case they decided to cheat on their gf over there?! If he were to think that far ahead, he definitely would have thought enough to replace the condom he took, ESPECIALLY since you guys had a conversation about it before he left. But come on...re-read my first sentence and you will see how absurd it is. I'd bet his little brother took it.
lovesanal Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 :lmao: ha ha Well Audrey, I just don't know how you jumped from a missing/lost/misplaced condom to him cheating NOW... I mean, if he had cheated in England where he had the opportunity to do so undected by you, that's one thing, but why NOW back at home? When he has you? Where the girl/s he may or may not have cheated with are NOT? (they would be over there in England, right?) So, I think you have two separate issues here... one is the Case of the Missing Condom. and the other is: Was your b/f faithful to you while abroad? You need to ask yourself if he has given you any reasons whatsoever, that he may have wanted to cheat, that he may be the type who is up for it, and that he actually did? There's nothing wrong with asking him if he remained faithful to you while away for 'so long', however don't bring in phony 'proof' of the missing condom to back you up! It just doesn't wash! Tell him you have been feeling a little insecure about his being away from you for weeks and wanted to ask him if he thought of sleeping with any girls while over there? See, the emphasis here is on how YOU are feeling, not on What He Did! And certainly do not use the condom in that conversation, lol... good stuff Athena, was going to post alot of what you covered...
lovesanal Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 (we even have them here in England ) I think if he planned on cheating, he would have been smart enough to get the condoms in England as well, I assumed you had them there as well...
lovesanal Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 This reminds me of a Brazilian girl I dated last year. She had bought a toothpaste and tooth brush set when she stayed at my house. I had removed it from my medicine cabinet in case I actually had another girl over (never happened) I totally forget (even now) where I put it. She never questioned that it was gone, but there were two coasters on my coffee table, probably from the week before (her and I) and she was accusatory of why they were there. lol
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