Chimpanzee Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I was with a girl for over six years, and we got on great. We had bought a flat together a couple of years ago and to be honest I felt pretty settled. It was one of those relationships where we rarely fought, she was easy going and got on like a house on fire which I thought was pretty good after all that time. Anyway for a week or so she seemed a bit distant. Nothing serious, just a bit "funny" with me.I asked her about it but she said she was just having a hard few days at work and she didnt want to talk about it. Then she went out on a night out with her mates as planned... and didn't come home. I got a text at 4am (I was asleep) saying she had decided to stay at her mates as she couldnt get a taxi. Next night after work I was making dinner and she walked in and announced it was over. Maybe I was blind but it hit me like a bolt out of the blue. Last thing I expected. She packed her things and left. This was four months ago, and I really feel like I should be over this but although I'm fine most of the time its at the back of my mind gnawing away. We've still been in contact on and off because we have a joint mortgage on the flat and she still has stuff here. She came home for a fortnight after phoning me in tears and asking to come back. I decided just to play it by ear and give her space but she spent literally one afternoon with me and a couple of evenings over the two weeks before telling me she felt trapped and controlled! I couldnt believe it. How can someone go from being great and being there for you unconditonally over such a long time to treating you like that? I keep thinking back to how well we got on and I just cant understand the complete almost overnight change in her to seeing me as the enemy. I dont suppose you ever really know someone.
NopeNah Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Hate to say it..but, There was probaly someone else the night she didn't come home. Then that didn't work out as planned so she came back. She's lost her feelings, man. It's time for you to go NC and move on.
lkjh Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Hate to say it..but, There was probaly someone else the night she didn't come home. Then that didn't work out as planned so she came back. She's lost her feelings, man. It's time for you to go NC and move on. agreed!!!!
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