samsungxoxo Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Ok have any of this happened to anyone? You have way back thought about cheating (had the intention in your thoughts) but never did it. Is that still bad?? I must admit I thought about it before but never acted on it. I could have gone for the many opportunities given but in the end I just couldn't do it. Till the point, on several occassions I end up crying at the thought of even daring myself at it. One time I cancelled a hang out with a coworker. I just I'm just too weak to ever transform it into action even if I was thrown in a pool or room full of fine looking men. But I hear there are some people that went on and cheated, how?? How did they had the guts to do it and proceed that day as nothing happened???
RA1 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 If you thought about cheating and then you took a decision not to do so, that's not bad. In fact, it's virtuous. But the second part of your post makes it sound as if you would quite like to cheat - is that the case?
Author samsungxoxo Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 the second part of your post makes it sound as if you would quite like to cheat - is that the case? Imaginarily speaking yes, reality now I still wouldn't do it. I'm not even good in lying about something silly. I even had a hard time once to stop thinking about what I was thinking, did cried about it telling myself within me ''No I can't do it''. I guess many people at some point had those thoughts but out of those many very few turned them into actions. I just wondered about those that thought about it and actually did end up doing it, how did they proceed on that day as if nothing happened, as if it was no big deal at all?? Where did they get the guts to do that, play with a person (a living being's) feelings then covering it all up with lie. That's like you were walking on a maze with someone who is blindedfolded and they trust you without looking but little did they knew that you would lead them to traps (holes, snakes, etc.).
Bejita463 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I just wondered about those that thought about it and actually did end up doing it, how did they proceed on that day as if nothing happened, as if it was no big deal at all?? Where did they get the guts to do that, play with a person (a living being's) feelings then covering it all up with lie. Easy, when you are selfish you aren't considering those things. All that matters is that they don't find out, and if they do not then there is no problem. Right? I think that is crap, but it is the impression such people have always given me.
Stark Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Like the above poster said people cheat because they are selfish. They have no consideration towards anyone but themselves. Sure, they might say this, say that, but it's because it conviences them, at that time, and the minute it stops being an inconvience and gets in the way, is the minute that the selfish attitude comes out and they don't give a damn. All that matters is they get what they want, regardless of who they hurt in the process to get it. You said you're too weak to cheat, as if its a bad thing not to be able to cheat. Weak is incorrect. You might feel weak, but thats only because you care so much, and it's a good thing. It takes a lot more to extend your caring to your partner, you're putting yourself on the line, than it does to just be selfish and not care and do as you please. Don't put yourself into temptations way and you won't even be having these thoughts. The problem that most people face are putting themselves in temptations way, thinking that they can handle it, but fail miserably because they are selfish.
Jackson24 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 WHAT DO YOU MEAN "WHERE DID THEY GET THE GUTS TO GO ON THE NEXT DAY ACTING LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED"!!! Cheating is a horrible thing, but what is worse and more hurtful is keeping it a secret. Going on with it like nothing happened is COWARDLY, not corageous. When they do finally fess up they say "I didn't want to hurt you" but what they really mean is "I didn't have the guts bc i can face the consequences". If you feel like it is an achievement to cheat its not. Go be a single, and you can sleep around and flirt with all the guys you wont to and no one gets hurt in the process. But do envy those who try to reap the benefits of a real relationship while betraying it at the same time. PS.. theres nothing wrong with thinking of cheating and stopping yourself.. thats called love and respect for your love. But by ur post i have a feeling you stopped for different reasons than that.
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