Broken up with through a text

[Pfiend101]

I am having such a hard time moving on from this.

 

My ex sent me a text saying she wanted some space. Even though we were seeing each other only once a week. So we decided for a two week break.

 

5 days into this break she invites me down to the bar where she wasnt really acting like herself. She was drinkin pretty fast. I dont drink. She was talking to me but I could tell something wasnt right.

 

Later she told me through a text that I have been the absolute best to her and I am everything she has ever wanted in a man. That we should go out to dinner sometime during the week.

 

 

Then I assume this break is over as she invited me out. So I texted her a couple times through the week with no response. She then tells me she cant be with anyone and doesn't want to be with anyone.

 

She tells me through text we will meet sometime soon and talk. So I send her a text telling her I'm available Sunday.

 

She sends a message back saying "I told you I'd call, dont mean 2 b harsh, I dont feel the same 4 you as you do me. I dont want hugs, cuddles, kisses, dinner for two... I dont want anyone to want me.. I dont wany anybody! Move on please find someone else please. I'm sorry.

 

So at this point I'm fin amazed that she wouldnt tell me this in person. Everything was great and one day she just flipped out.

 

So I write her a message on facebook bieng nothing but positive. and nothing back in almost two weeks. I haven't contacted her at all since then, told her I wouldn't in the message.

 

I still have her on my facebook but she has blocked it so I can't view her friends or wall posts. Why wouldn't she just delete me?

 

What kind of person does this through text?

 

What is going through her mind.

 

She physically has hurt herself and I heard she is drinking from a mutual friend ever since the breakup. I also heard that I did absolutely nothing to cause the break up and that she just has issues. She has a history of abuse and family issues.

 

I just want some closure. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you

[NopeNah]

A coward does it through text. How long were you together?

[sandy12345678993]

I agree that COWARDS break up with someone via text. I was broken up with by text. At least she came out and told you that she didn't want to be with you. My ex texted me about a "break" because he needed to deal with some things, and he felt he couldn't give me his full attention. He told me he loved me and would be back for me. He didn't even call me and tell me this. We were long distance. He told me that he would call tomorrow. Well, tomorrow came and went and he didn't call. I really thought we were on a break and I was giving him space. I texted him twice in the beginning with no reply. I didn't call him for a month. And when I finally did, he had changed his phone number. What the hell kind of person does something like that to someone they love? Why not be an adult and tell me you don't want to be with me? (Ooooh, I'm angry now and not depressed. I think this is progress. )

 

It's been about 2 1/2 months now, and it still hurts. He hurt me more than anyone else who has claimed to love me. But I feel like I'm finally getting better and dealing with it. You may not get closure from her. You'll may have to create your own closure, and that's a hard thing to do.

 

If you aren't mature enough to break up with someone in person and deal with the other person and their feelings and emotions, then you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship. Spare us the heartache.

[Exit]

I think you have as much closure as you are going to get, in the form of the people who are telling you she just has issues. It sounds like she does. And as much as we all love to make a project out of fixing someone with emotional baggage, it's usually not worth the effort.

 

I think you may have luckily dodged a bad seed and as the days go by, the pain will get better and you will start to see that you are better off without her.