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Thanks for ruining the joke, Bob.

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Thanks for ruining the joke, Bob.

 

Glad I could help.

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I think I'm talking about situations where I wouldn't know what to say even if I WAS attracted to the guy. But yeah, I guess tbh, part of the problem is that I feel I tend to be approached by guys that approach every women they see, vs. guys who actually see something of my personality and decide they might like to chat.

 

WHAT?!? No one can SEE your personality, especially since its an awkward situation. All they can do is say hello and see if you give back a positive response. Not only that, youre the woman, youre being approached, you dont have to know what to say, the guy will ask you questions, and you answer them. And after that, its a conversation. Whats so hard about that? You dont even have to do the hard part.

 

If you think youre only being approached by pick up artists then I understand, but like I said, regular guys dont always approach women in public. So just talk to them that approach you, and you might get a gem. In fact, you can test those guys to see if they are really into you. Just gotta figure out what to test them with.

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Why in the world would I test a guy I'm not even interested in?

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All they can do is say hello and see if you give back a positive response. Not only that, youre the woman, youre being approached, you dont have to know what to say, the guy will ask you questions, and you answer them. And after that, its a conversation. Whats so hard about that? You dont even have to do the hard part.

 

100% Agree :cool:

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Why in the world would I test a guy I'm not even interested in?

 

I mean the ones you ARE interested in. Geesh.

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OMG, that's so not me in the avatar. I wish.

 

Is that Emmanuel Beart?

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Why in the world would I test a guy I'm not even interested in?

 

I think the word "test" has a leading connotation. Why not just respond when guys flirt with you. See where things go. Answer his questions about you, and - this is important - ask him a couple about himself. This is all we are trying to say.

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Is that Emmanuel Beart?

 

Ok, I love you for recognizing my avvy. :love: Isn't she the most beautiful woman ever?

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Ok, I love you for recognizing my avvy. :love: Isn't she the most beautiful woman ever?

 

She is one gorgeous woman. I think I rented all her movies at one point when I had a crush on her in my younger days.

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But yeah, I guess tbh, part of the problem is that I feel I tend to be approached by guys that approach every women they see, vs. guys who actually see something of my personality and decide they might like to chat.

 

Ah ha! The perfect solution to that? YOU pick the guy by flirting: smile and hold eye contact. That way you gain a bit of control over who approaches you. It doesn't always work, but hey, it's much easier to do then actually walking up to a complete stranger and saying something, right guys? Plus, when it doesn't work, it could be soooo many reasons that there's really no reason to take offense.

 

And when it does work... aahh.... I miss my most recent ex...

 

and ps: while I understand the feeling of "he approaches everybody", really, when I think about it, who cares if a guy approaches every cute girl he sees??? Approach is step one, then it's compatibility that counts. All I'm saying is... There's a long road between approach, dating and relationship.

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Ugh, I know what you mean. I will be out buying clothes or shoes or something and I'm just browsing around, minding my own business when... BAM!!!... outta nowhere this girl comes up and says: "Hi! Can I help you find something?"

 

I get all embarrassed for her, because "hey lady, I'm clothes shopping here and in no place to have to fend you off!" Of course there's like this huge, drawn out, awkward moment where we just look at each other with disgust. But eventually she turns and walks away. Thank god. Score one for me.

 

Then, after I've walked around for a while and seen some stuff, you wouldn't even believe it... She's totally back! And do you know what she says to me?!?!? "Can I help you find anything?" At this point I'm like WTF OMG WTF!! LOL!!! Hold your horses woman! I'm clearly not interested in you, so please just back off!! Some girls must be pretty desperate!!! OMFG LOL!!!

 

:laugh: ICB, You Rock!

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