Giha Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Hey My friend invited me to his birthday party, the thing is - he is also a friend of my friend (or was my friend) who is now in a relationship with my ex, who I still love and not yet over her. He wants us both in his party. I have no idea what I should do. If I'll go, feelings will rise when I see him, I really don't want to see him even though he wants to make things right between us. No one never hurt me like he and she did. I also don't want to disappoint my friend who's celebrating. It's really hard on me. I missed another friend's birthday before for the same reason. Just thinking about seeing this scumbag brings tears of anger to my eyes, and makes me think about her again.
NopeNah Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I wouldn't go personaly. Maybe take your friend out to lunch or something that day instead of going to his party.
BCCA Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Your friend will understand. While it would be great to have everyone there and happy, it would also be great to find a million dollars. Neither are very realistic, though. Life is too short to fret over one birthday. Youre not ready to see her, end of story. Its your life, and you have to do whats good for you. Going wouldnt be good for you, so dont. I've passed on MANY things just like this for the same reason. No one can really blame you, and if they dont understand, they arent really a friend.
Author Giha Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 I wouldn't go personaly. Maybe take your friend out to lunch or something that day instead of going to his party. Yeah, I thought about something like that. I just needed to see if you guys think I take things too seriously. Thanks for your reply, I really need help here with this. It's surprisingly a hard decision to make for me.
Thaddeus Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I'm with BCAA. Call your buddy, treat him to a lunch or dinner or movie or something, and tell him the truth about why you can't make it. He's undoubtedly been in a similar situation, so he'll most likely understand.
Author Giha Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 Your friend will understand. While it would be great to have everyone there and happy, it would also be great to find a million dollars. Neither are very realistic, though. Life is too short to fret over one birthday. Youre not ready to see her, end of story. Its your life, and you have to do whats good for you. Going wouldnt be good for you, so dont. I've passed on MANY things just like this for the same reason. No one can really blame you, and if they dont understand, they arent really a friend. She isn't going to be there. Her new boyfriend is (he used to be a friend of mine even before elementary school (did I spell that right?), and is still friends with the one having the birthday) But I guess you're still right, going won't be too good for me. Thanks for your comment. I'm with BCAA. Call your buddy, treat him to a lunch or dinner or movie or something, and tell him the truth about why you can't make it. He's undoubtedly been in a similar situation, so he'll most likely understand. Yeah, actually he was in the exact situation. I talked to him and he says he understands and it's alright if I won't make it. I guess I'll take your advice and just take him to lunch or something fun. Thank you!
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