tommo66 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Hi well i`ve gone 10 days now NC, my ex gf has text me twice in those 10 days but i never responded, and i know she would`nt like it that i never replied. well tonight i went on facebook, i had deleted 10 days ago when i found out she had gone back too her ex bf, even though she still kept denying it and wanted too remain good friends with me, she had still been using the poke button too poke me, but i kept removing the poke. tonight for some reason i decided too check her profile, i knew that she had been on mine because she had deleted some things off my wall that she had wrote, as soon as i went on her profile she had changed from being single too in a relationship. it was`nt really a shock because i knew anyway, but the thing that got me was when we were a couple her profile always said single, but it hurt all the same, her profile is`nt even private, so its as if she knew i would look and she put it there for my benefit. do you think she has done this for a reaction from me, because i`m not replying to her texts anymore, i think what she`s done is nasty and hurtful, and in our relationship i never did anything wrong, she dumped me. if anyone could shed any light on why she is being nasty, i would be very grateful. thanks
Thomas X Forever Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 It's difficult to say why someone may be nasty. Maybe she had a bad childhood, and is screwed up mentally. Maybe she's crazy, who knows. Did she do what you're accusing her of, on purpose? It's possible. Girls can be very vindictive and cruel. This girl sounds like bad news either way, though. I feel your pain about today being bad though. Not only did I have a dream of my ex last night that has me all twisted AGAIN AS USUAL, but I was cleaning my car today... there was a sleeve of pictures... I pulled one out, and it was her. I hadn't seen her in months. Seeing her ripped my scars apart, acid felt like it was coursing through my veins, the pain so powerful I couldn't even cry. If I was a weaker person, I'd kill myself.
Exit Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 She may very well be throwing a fit because you ignored her, but that doesn't mean you should stop. You don't have to play along with her games. The relationship is over and she doesn't need to keep texting you. You'll be better off when you decide to stop looking at Facebook all together. It reminds me of my relationship the way her page said "Single" even when she was with you. When my ex was in her previous relationship, they both had pictures of each other posted, on their MySpace "about me section" they both mentioned who they were in love with, but when she was with me, none of that happened. We went on a vacation, had a great time, first thing when we got home I gave her a CD with all the digital photos we took, she never uploaded a single picture or anything. But it's not worth wondering about stuff like that. Stay strong, stay on the path that you're on. Unless she wants to talk about getting back together, you have no reason to respond to her.
Taucher Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Sh*t man, sorry to hear that. I think you should try and ignore Facebook. Not that I am able to, I look at my SO's page every day! However, Facebook is a very public projection of someone and you can try to second guess why she would do what she has done but YOU WONT KNOW. You can see the evidence, but you cant explain it. It raises a million questions which you can not answer. Maybe she is really into this other person. Maybe she is not but her changing her status is a message to you, everyone else and herself, trying to put a brave face on it and show everyone that she is ok. I dont know.
Author tommo66 Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 well i did`nt look on facebook tonight, i can`t be bothered, i suppose it was a message to me that she was in a relationship, to try to get me to react, due to the fact that i`ve gone NC, i think she was using the facebook tactic too see if i`d put something on my profile, but i`m not into nasty games. But i do remember her saying when we were together that i had got under her skin in a good way, and that she hated not being in control, so i think that she might try other ways too get me too react, because at the moment, i an in control by going NC. we will have too see, but i`m still staying NC, whatever happens.
Exit Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Yup, NC is keeping you in the position of power right now. Don't react, because she probably IS doing these things on purpose.
adamt Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 you should remove them as friends on facebook. I did it last week and it helps a lot. I didnt bother telling her, i'm sure she will know why and wont be offended by it.
Giha Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Oh man, I know how you feel. I messed up by checking up on her profiles after 2.5 weeks of NC. She wrote stuff like "I love you ", "I'm so happy", and a bunch of crap like that. She never did that when we were together. It's not that big-a-deal, but it can still piss you off.
waitingpatiently Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Yea that's pretty messed up. But don't torture yourself. Remove her as a friend to keep you from temptation. Good job on staying NC.
Athena Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 if anyone could shed any light on why she is being nasty, i would be very grateful. thanks She has been nasty to you because she's been feeling insecure. In her own way, she was protecting her heart against you by lashing out at you, at the same time she was 'asking' you to accept her as she was, and to show her love back... that's how needy she was. I think the FB status change was done to help her 'get over' you (since she is also hurting now -- it's only normal at the end of any relationship -- plus, you were the one ignoring her recently) and, yes, it's her way of getting to you.
Author tommo66 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Posted July 10, 2009 She has been nasty to you because she's been feeling insecure. In her own way, she was protecting her heart against you by lashing out at you, at the same time she was 'asking' you to accept her as she was, and to show her love back... that's how needy she was. I think the FB status change was done to help her 'get over' you (since she is also hurting now -- it's only normal at the end of any relationship -- plus, you were the one ignoring her recently) and, yes, it's her way of getting to you. i don`t understand how she can be hurting because she dumped me and went back too her ex boyfriend, she always did say that she was insecure.
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