gorgio Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 After a lot of suffering and me begging her back, her getting into a rebound relationship, periods of NC / LC that lasted months, she is finally showing interest after I started pulling back and moving on (we stayed in LC). And you know what? Even though there is still pain, I don't even know if I want her back. The moral of my story? Sometimes it's great to go LC for a little while in order to understand that you are not missing out on much. I think it makes you stronger in a painful, strange way. I know some here will disagree, but I am not sorry for going LC. To all the second-chancers out there, make sure you really want them back before you waste your time fighting for them. They change and can turn into arrogant manipulative biatches ;-)
dunstable Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 A Even though there is still pain, I don't even know if I want her back. Clearly, you are no longer in love with her. Move on.
traxN90s Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Sorry for the noob question but what's LC? Oh and it appears that you've moved on based on your thoughts. I'd say forget about her. You've put yourself on the line to try and get her back, so why take her now that SHE'S ready.
KAP84 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 After a lot of suffering and me begging her back, her getting into a rebound relationship, periods of NC / LC that lasted months, she is finally showing interest after I started pulling back and moving on (we stayed in LC). And you know what? Even though there is still pain, I don't even know if I want her back. The moral of my story? Sometimes it's great to go LC for a little while in order to understand that you are not missing out on much. I think it makes you stronger in a painful, strange way. I know some here will disagree, but I am not sorry for going LC. To all the second-chancers out there, make sure you really want them back before you waste your time fighting for them. They change and can turn into arrogant manipulative biatches ;-) I agree. What did she expect? She can't have it both ways. Screw them.
Author gorgio Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 Clearly, you are no longer in love with her. Move on. I don't think it's only about being in love. You reach a stage in your life (and I have reached that stage) where you start looking for someone to share your life with. I thought she was the one, but she changed (I think she changed and hurt me so much that I just see her in a different light).
Author gorgio Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 Sorry for the noob question but what's LC? Oh and it appears that you've moved on based on your thoughts. I'd say forget about her. You've put yourself on the line to try and get her back, so why take her now that SHE'S ready. 'Little / Low Contact'. Many on these boards suggest going NC (No Contact), but I think that staying in LC and learning to control your emotions and thoughts is a more challenging route but in my case was also the preferred route. Had I gone NC (and I have in the past) I would have healed and moved on, but not necessarily faced my mistakes (again, from past experience). But it is not an easy thing to do and not recommended in every situation. Analyze the situation for yourself and make the choices that are best for you. If you are too emotional and can't control yourself just go NC.
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